I enjoy the technological advances and progression that society continues to make, like anyone else. However, I recently began recognizing some of the drawbacks to our fast-forward, technologically advanced society. In a world where technology has become the vehicle  for communication, more and more we are losing the importance of one-on-one contact and interaction.  If someone invites you to share a cup of coffee, and have a conversation, this type of social engagement is becoming more and more rare. I have recently begun writing handwritten thank you notes to everyone that I do a reading for. I really enjoy this grounding, traditional act of thanks, expressed towards my clients. It reminds me of the beauty of a handwritten note and the joy  I have felt receiving something in the mail other than bills. As a sensitive person, I also can feel the energy in the handwritten sentiments upon opening it. I know most people would not feel the energy in the same way, perhaps, as I do, but, at the very least, I hope people can feel the sincere gratitude I have for the fact that they have allowed me to come into a small fragment of their lives. Considering the diminishing amount of time we spend face-to-face with one another, it also seems reasonable that we as a human race, should make more effort to make those interactions pleasant. The smallest gesture of kindness is free, and can change a person’s day into a positive experience within seconds. This gesture is none other than a smile. In South Florida, where I live, smiling at someone can be so rare that when you choose to do so, you are considered the “strange” one, and on more than one occasion, I have had someone ask, “What are you smiling at?”  A smile is a simple way to express “I see you,” and “I am sending you happy vibes.”

The other consequence to an advanced society is that it’s not uncommon for people to have fear with regard to helping others in their time of need. For instance, if a person is obviously in trouble and in need of medical care, more and more often even medical professionals who are at the scene, while off-duty, are hesitant to assist, for fear of being sued. This reality saddens me to my core, because if we have lost the sense of unity that we should all possess as being part of the human race, what is it going to take for us to realize that this is why God chooses to put us in certain places at certain moments in life. I can say with every ounce of certainty that I have in my body, if I saw someone in trouble, I would at least go over to where they are, call 911, and pray my heart out. I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason and  so if I found myself in the presence of someone needing help, I would feel that God had placed me there to be of some kind of assistance. In the news, we hear all the time about some crisis taking place and the passersby  do little or nothing to help those involved in the crisis. I try to understand how this could happen. Is it that they believe someone else will step up to the plate and do what’s right? What makes us feel we are the ones to determine whether or not it is ourselves or someone else that God is choosing to show our ability to be servants to him at any given moment or not?  He is one superior I do not want to let down and I also try my best to treat others the way I would want to be treated. If I were in trouble, I would hope and pray that someone would come to my aid.

You are a beautiful human being, whether you realize it or not, possessing countless talents, and the ability to call on God for assistance for yourselves and others at any given time, and, as individuals, we are different but as humans we are the same. Thus, in helping others, you, in turn, help yourself. Although the fear of being sued or hurt in some way in the process is understandable, we have a responsibility to move forward doing the right thing, and in doing that, there is a sense of security knowing that God is in our corner. Be kind to one another, think carefully before speaking, spread love to everyone with random acts of kindness and pray that this mentality and expression of affection will become contagious, setting forth a ripple effect that, in turn, switches our attention a little less from mechanics and machines to heart-to-heart, face-to-face interactions with one another. So, finally,  I ask you to think about, would you step up if God placed you in a situation where help was needed? I hope, for all our sakes, the answer is yes, without a shadow of a doubt.

I am the type of person who tells people that I know that I love them all the time. I have a tendency to even tell that to people I haven’t known very long, or may only know through the casual interactions allowed through Facebook. In fact, I had someone tell me recently that I should not use that word so much. To me, the idea of restricting the word love is ludicrous. For me, personally, I think it is worthwhile to say it to someone in the moment, rather than wishing later you had not let the moment pass you by. Life is unpredictable and, so often, reminds us that it can end short or shorter than we expected. Although I would love to believe that all of us will live to be in our ripe old 80’s or 90’s, there’s no telling what is written in a person’s sacred contract about when life can send the unexpected, taking a life. Keeping this in mind, why not say, “I love you?” For me, it is much more than words, it is an acknowledgement that I invite the opportunity to embrace a person, understanding that they are a continuation of me, and their own unique perfection all at the same time. Of course, given the circumstances behind how I know a person helps define how the word love is shaped in relation to that person. However, from the bottom of my heart, I love all other human beings and in the words of Bob Dylan, “You may say that I’m the Dreamer, but I’m not the only one.” I also believe with all of my heart, that if we, as the human race, would learn to express gestures of kindness and words of affection more often than words that amplify negative thoughts and beliefs, then the world would reach a level of spiritual elevation greater than our wildest imagination. One thing that I have learned to recognize over the years, is that when I make the choice to declare my love for, or to, someone, I am not making a gesture that only encompasses the moment the word is said. I mean that I love this person entirely. I love when they are at their best and although I do not want to see them unhappy or struggling, I love them at their worst, too. Every person has traits, both positive and negative, and if I do not acknowledge and recognize their negative characteristics, I would be fooling myself into believing that I engulfed perfection, because as I stated before, we are all one. Therefore, when you are at your best, I am at my best. When you are at your worst, I am at my worst. That is another reason why I find it easy to remind myself that there is light at the end of any tunnel, because I know I am not traveling that tunnel alone and with that much energy in one place, someone has to have a flashlight. Every evening I send light to everyone on my Facebook page, and everyone on my Fan page. Finally, I always include everyone who has the potential to be a part of either of those pages. No matter where you are in the world, I say with the deepest devotion, “I love you” and it is much more than a word, so once you have defined love on your terms, say it often.

Being the optimistic person that I am, it takes a lot to get me down. However, being human allows for suffering, which is part of the human condition. There are all kinds of suffering, and it seems like when something negative happens that hits you from out of left field, then even the smallest mishap can collide into an avalanche of burden that settles on your chest like an elephant taking a rest on your heart. When you find yourself submerged in this type of situation, try to remember that light does exist at the end of every tunnel, or above the elephant who has taken refuge on your heart. If you cannot see the light, remember that you have an endless supply of that light deep within yourself at the core. God, himself, ignited an internal flame as he created you in his perfect image. Try to see the slightest glimpse of perfection within yourself or if that is too difficult, in the very present moment that you are experiencing. Maybe the perfection exists in the way that the sunlight reflects on the curtain in your living room, or the never-ending expression of your pure-of-heart doggy or pet, who amidst any storm, constantly looks as though he or she is smiling. Tell yourself that you deserve to be loved with the same never-ending compassion and unconditional devotion that your pet or God has for you. We should all give thanks that breathing is free, and good health is a luxury. Every moment is a chance for positive change, and the baby step for a complete transformation manifesting all the positivity that you can imagine. During difficult times, it is hard to be inspired but know that when you were brought into existence, you owned an endless supply of inspiration that is harbored within your heart. Find a way to express yourself. Get everything out-the good, the bad and the ugly. Once it is out in black and white, it can no longer fester deep within your core, dampening the glory of your soul.Try to listen to music or sit in the quiet, calm of the outdoors, whatever option brings you comfort. Understand that everything happens for a reason, and although we may not understand that reason at this moment, it is one of the mysterious ways that the universe perpetuates change, to clear out the old and prepare for new moments of growth and future adventures. If you are reading this blog, know that I have written this as the reset button to be pushed on your flashlight, to allow God to turn it back on, so that you can find your path leading out of the darkness.

Today I was lucky enough to watch my friend’s 5 month old baby while she worked, I was in pure heaven! He is a very good baby and I sang to him and he would smile, seconds later my heart would melt.  I have many career goals although, I also can not wait to adopt a baby of my own. Anything, to keep him smiling. Having special time like that with another person big or small is what life is about. He made my day and I think I made his as we just simply spent time together. So sometimes remember to just spend time together because it is the little things in life that matter!:)

There are many events that happen every single day, that are, by no means, a coincidence. In fact, there is no such thing as a coincidence. There are only God-incidences. For example, how often do you think of someone and then, all of a sudden, the person you were thinking about, appears? Maybe not on the exact day that you think of them, but soon after. Other types of synchronistic events are not always pleasant in the beginning, but over time, prove to be the best situation. I was trying, for several months, to promote my career by getting involved with a large company who could help me with this goal. However, over time, I realized that this company was not the best option for me. Even though, in the beginning, I put many of my eggs in one basket that related to this well-known company, I began thinking, “Why couldn’t I work on projects to build my own empire?,” and as soon as I made this realization, I began to see from an insider’s perspective, different characteristics in that one company that, perhaps, were not the best fit for me and my vision of the direction I was choosing to take my talents. Accepting that I was not going to be part of the larger company was heartbreaking because I knew my career goals would be harder to accomplish without the big name behind me. However, after weeks of meditation, regrouping and focusing on the positive, I now understand that everything that has happened with regard to my career, has been a synchronistic event, in other words, a blessing in disguise. Someone recently asked me how I was able to have this epiphany. As I said before, it was definitely not easy and, on more than one occasion, I cried, although over time, I accepted that nothing happens by accident, and it was only by becoming an insider and developing a connection with this large a company, that I realized that the company’s direction and the direction I choose to take my career are very different. I am now also recognizing that many other doors and windows of opportunity have flown open since I have increased my vision and flexibility to entertain taking a different path. I know for a fact, that the person who started this massive empire, for the most part, did it on his or her own, and I am far from being alone, because I already have a huge, amazing, yet intimate group of people who stand behind and promote me, Melissa Hevenor, as a psychic/medium. This fact puts me way ahead of the game and causes me to thank God every day, remain humble, grounded and focused on how to serve as a beacon of light to help thousands of people, one person at a time. So, the main message of this blog, is to keep an eye open for synchronistic events, and that nothing happens by chance and no matter how much chaos your life may be in, there is a path and an organization to every ounce of chaos.