Melissa Hevenor
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Acceptance For All

Thursday, October 21st, 2010

I wanted to write another blog in lieu of yesterday’s anti-bullying campaign, in recognition for the terrible losses of the teenagers who recently took their own lives after suffering from relentless bullying because of their sexual orientation. If you notice that Facebook was predominantly purple, it was a quiet declaration across the social networks to recognize ending this crisis that has plagued the LGBT community. I feel very passionately about this cause, because I have a strong connection with the LGBT community, because of the countless friends I have made in the world of theater and other creative endeavors. I never want to be responsible for stereotyping or speaking on behalf of individuals other than myself, although, from my experience, members of the LGBT community are typically creative, brilliant, loyal, extraordinary human beings with a wealth of knowledge that serves as a tapestry of wisdom for any and every situation that anyone can go through given their fortitude and strength to both embrace who they are individually, and find their niche in a collective society. Personally, I also feel an alliance with LGBT individuals because as an individual with a disability, I tend to experience, on occasion, feeling like an outsider and praying for acceptance. A dear friend of mine, Karen McCrocklin, author of “Out From The Inside,” shared an excerpt from her book, where she described what it would be like if, one day, all the LGBT individuals turned purple. If this were to happen, the parades of purple people we would see would surprise us all, as we recognize how many amazing people are still in hiding, for fear of rejection and/or abuse. I am taking the liberty to paraphrase, but in essence, that was her point and that image has remained permeated in my mind since I read it yesterday afternoon. Many people who have learning disabilities which are undetectable from the physical standpoint feel the need to hide their condition, for fear of non-acceptance. In no way am I implying that being part of the LGBT community is, in any way, shape or form a disability, it is only a demonstration of how I feel passionate to advocate for those of us who are different. I have always felt, internally, that when a group that stands apart from the mainstream makes advances, huge strides will be made for the human race as a whole. Someone recently asked me why I take the time to write my blogs and, with very little consideration, I responded, “It is a simple declaration for the possibilities of what I believe the human race can become if awareness is born about the importance to accept and love each other.” So often, people are in search of the meaning of life. From my understanding, the meaning of life is simple. The meaning of life is to love; the tricky part is to find how, as an individual, you can do that at the greatest capacity. The first step in embracing my definition of the meaning of life is to live with as little judgment as possible when dealing with other individuals trying to find their way. I hope I have provided some food for thought and if, by chance, all people who do not fit into our idea of society’s “mainstream” turn purple, perhaps the mainstream will be envious and recognize the beauty found in differences.