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A Dream Come True: The Journey To Meeting Jessie J

Thursday, April 14th, 2016

It’s been such a long time since I felt inspired to blog because my life has consisted predominately of feeling sick, going to the hospital getting treatment and coming back feeling worse during the battle for my life. Even so, overall I’m still a happy person,  I pray a lot, listen to music and use makeup to keep myself sane and inspired. I love all types of music and music has been a part of my life since I was very little in huge way. At age 5 I started taking voice lessons at the YMCA realizing very early when I was singing it didn’t matter that I was in a wheelchair. people saw my heart they didn’t assume that I wasn’t intelligent they didn’t care that couldn’t run across the playground they saw who I really was inside and not differences. Music helped me get through a world wind childhood filled with a sick mother who was a prisoner of multiple addictions. It wasn’t long before I started entering voice competitions to earn money for food and for what I called my  just in case money stash to give me a sense of security to care for me and my sister. Those circumstances put a lot of pressure on me to succeed, instead, of concentrating on that pressure, I made it a game against myself to always keep improving.

Late at night when I couldn’t sleep because I was hungry or because my mom had not returned home I would hold my hand brush in my hand and pretend to be Singing on stage with Whitney Houston as I belted it out “Saving All My Love For You” at eight years old. Whitney Houston was what I strived to be as a Singer. Fast forward to age 17 doing a voice competition in a small theater Washington D.C.I was offered a record deal. With a broken heart I turned it down because I couldn’t imagine leaving my sister and because I was a minor and my mother was too jealous to grant me the permission. My mother also could sing before drugs and alcohol destroyed her voice she could sing along with Barbra Streisand and you absolutely could not tell the difference between her voice and the record. I went into a deep depression for about a year because I wasn’t able to take that opportunity after working so hard. However, I never stopped getting good grades in school because I knew good grades and education was my only chance to do better for myself and my sister. Thank God, I had two Aunts my grandmother’s sisters who wanted me to have the world and showed me what unconditional love was. My aunt encouraged me to join the drama club when I started high school as well as choir because she saw how fearless I was on stage and how much I loved it. She used to say it may not be easy for you to get opportunity to be in front of crowds because of your differences but the world needs to see you on the stage to make a difference on a large-scale. Getting the chance to audition for Tish School of the arts in New York City was amazing and my Aunt  put money aside to save up for the train tickets and the hotel as the audition process was a  two day thing. I did my audition in front of a panel of five faculty I put my whole  heart into it, a full portfolio of how I would Direct a play by Tennessee Williams.
I was devastated when I didn’t get in until at the very last moment a professor came running out who had been on the panel and said, ” please don’t be discouraged your audition was flawless, logistically the school would be very difficult for you to manage with your wheelchair, the buildings are old elevators don’t work and the amounts of snow that we get in the winter. Of course, the rest of the panel will deny this as the reason but I could not put my head down tonight having you think it was because your audition was not good enough. There’s many amazing art schools out there just put your whole heart in that’s what matters. This was the first time I began to understand that my talent may not be enough so I started studying psychology and that’s the direction my life took. I don’t regret it at all because it prepared me for where I am now to use my intuitive/ Mediumship  skills to help people in a therapeutic way. Music was  on the front burner again as I started taking art therapy classes and realizing how much music and writing helped people with healing. Getting accepted into the University of Maryland I wanted to take dance classes as my electives. Of course, the faculty was not happy thinking I would not be able to show my skills so  how would I be graded. This time I wouldn’t take no for an answer because it was just elective classes so I learned dance notation and I could verbally tell the dancers the different routines. At the end the faculty thanked to me saying that the dancers became better dancers having to learn to truly listen to verbal instruction of the choreography.

Working as a student therapist as student Director of the suicide crisis hot line and going to school full-time in my masters program was extremely demanding so to relax at home I would watch YouTube videos of young singers when I came across Jessie J singing Big White Room. I was one of the first 100 views on that video which now has so many but I knew in that moment she would be a massive star. She had edginess of Janis Joplin the elegance of Whitney Houston and and infectious loving quality similar to the energy of Princess Diana even in the very beginning. Eventually I had to have my thyroid removed because it just stopped working once I had that surgery I was unable to sing the same way again we now know the collapse of my thyroid was probably the first sign the rare form of cancer I am now fighting that had not been diagnosed at that time. Jessie J’s passion and talent helped me  through the sadness of not being able to sing the same, even though, I could hear the music the same way and it resonated to my core, I could not reproduce the notes that I heard with the same precision.

In 2010 I lost my job as a counselor due to cutbacks and I live on savings as long as I could. When I finally lost my house in 2012 because I couldn’t make the payments, as I was packing up my belongings Jessie J’s first album who you are was playing in the background. I will never forget praying to God to give me strength and to keep happiness in my heart even through the darkness I was facing much of the time sitting alone parking  my belongings for Storage because my family had gone to heaven. The one person’s voice that was always there in the background was Jessie’s. Thankfully  had amazing friends who helped me a as much as they could but late at night when the tears would flow it was God myself and Jess.

Slowly I began  to build clientele giving intuitive readings something I had done on the side for free just to help people for years. I began to understand this was gods way of getting me on my life’s purpose to really own the gifts he had  given because I’m a very loyal person and otherwise I never would’ve quit my job to follow the path as a spiritual teacher. Having success slowly building my own business with various opportunities to do readings on stage. Most stages are not wheelchair accessible and even though, I was the entertainment often I would have to do the readings or inspirational speaking on the ground or floor in front of the stage rather than on the stage. My preparation to get ready for readings has always been listening to music beforehand, music that usually consists of pop R&B or hip hop and traveling as far as Australia to study mediumship.

The most recent challenge I’ve had to deal with for the last three years is battling cancer thank God for Technology that allows me to do readings worldwide by email or Skype in between treatment on the occasions when I’m feeling halfway normal. As usual whether I’m going into emergency surgery to remove my port because of infection, or going in for treatment Jessie J’s singing through my phone. Hearing her voice sing conquer the world even regulated my heart beat while under anesthesia.

The power of social media and an Earth Angel disguised as a Record label executive colliding with me with the help of another Earth angel who is now in heaven named Talia Castellano who taught me through her YouTube videos how to apply makeup for my public readings and inspirational speaking. Before losing her battle to childhood cancer Talia I became friends and when I was diagnosed with cancer 31/2 years ago she was my counselor even at the young age of 12.  Now I honor her by helping to carry on her legacy and finding a cure for childhood cancer because after going through this myself I’m determined no child should go through it! Working her magic from heaven she helped Jessie’s Record label  follow me and  offer to help me get tickets if JessIe performed in Florida. Not only did I get to go to Universal Studios to see her perform but was granted the opportunity to meet her.

On April 9 with 101 fever the whole night before due to an enlarged spleen from a buildup of cancer cells and an infection and pain as a result of the enlargement. I was unable to leave on the three hour car ride up to Orlando until 1230 in afternoon. After coming up with a pain medication routine and reclining the passenger seat as far back as possible we began on the journey to make the ride to Talia’s house which was about 40 minutes from Universal Studios where the concert would be that evening. Talia’s sister Mattia and mom Desiree have become part of my family and a huge support system during my own Battle with this beast known as cancer. Therefore, I wanted them to join me in this exciting Adventure of meeting Jessie J.  My friend Sandra who is my sister by choice because she’s been with me through everything losing my job losing my house losing my health traveling an hour once a week just to bring food because I couldn’t afford to buy any or because I was too sick to make it myself. Sandra is my very best friend, she knows my heart, she knows my faults, she knows my flaws, she knows my happiness, knows my sadness, she knows my abilities and my disabilities and loves me no matter what.  So she also had to be a part of this is special celebration of life through Jessie’s music.

When we arrived at the house we only have an hour before we had to leave for the concert so we quickly got out of the car and  Mattia did my makeup while Desiree Talia’s mom painted my nails. (Talia’s sister who is an amazing makeup artist like her little sister Taliajoy18 on YouTube. Although, Mattia Joyce who is also on YouTube has her own sense of style, her own sense of humor and a talent all her own while carrying on the beautiful Legacy of her little sister. ) Helping me get glammed up is something that comes very natural for Mattia and Desiree because they continue a program Talia started called Glam Wars where they go into children’s hospitals and give makeovers two little girls going through chemo and face painting to little boys going through chemo to  help them feel more confident and happy during their fight. CoverGirl provides all the makeup for the program Since Talia became an honorary Cover Girl on the Ellen  show.( To find out more about this program please go to taliaslegacy.org)

Rushing out the door we head to Universal Studios arriving early until we realize how long the customer service line was where we were supposed to pick up the passes to go to the concert. Then I find out Jessie was running late. Before long the show was about to start so meeting Jessie was delayed until after the show. I began to worry maybe we would run out of time or maybe it wouldn’t happen that is until, I reminded myself I had asked Talia to send me a sign that she would be with me in spirit. Days earlier I asked her to send me a feather representing one of her Angel feathers. Hours before the concert , Jessie posted on Instagram a picture of a hummingbird made out of paper or  Kleenex  held in someone’s hand but what stood out in the picture was the delicate beautiful feathers that were part of the hummingbird and I knew that was my sign from Talia. I sang my heart out to every song watching Jessie on the big screen because the wheelchair accessible Area was pretty far back. When the song Bang Bang came onI got a text it was the last song to start heading over where we would meet her. So we all rushed over to where we were supposed to meet her before the show. When we got there and there was a young man he said no she’s meeting you somewhere else. We followed the path through the back ways of the park and my heart began to pound as I realized how close I was to meeting her something I wanted to do for years. If I was able to get up from my wheelchair and run I would have at that moment. As we approached Jessie was seated halfway in her rental car in the passenger seat and again my brain started thinking oh she’s ready to leave she’s going to say hi and take off. This was a huge lesson for me because fear allows our mind to create a story that is so different from god’s plan. Jessie stepped out of the car walked over to me and knelt down to be at eye level with me in my wheelchair. I started to cry and I explained to her it wasn’t because she was famous it wasn’t because she was JessieJ, tears were flowing because since my family is in heaven her voice through her music is always there no matter what and to be in front of her for that reason was overwhelming. I gave her a necklace I designed that is a guitar pick that says Jessie your music helps me breathe Friends forever on the front and a music note on the back. I have a matching one that I wear all the time for inspiration and now she would have hers. Then I asked her if I could show her one more thing? Jessie replied of course you can! I apologized because I told her it was 17 minutes long, I wrote a poem using all her song titles from each of her three albums and made a video of it on YouTube. (I wrote it when I was very sick in the hospital in intensive care and the nurse told me I should be resting, it was a waste of time because Jessie would never see it. My dream was for Jessie to see the poem because I have an easier time expressing myself through writing and the poem embodied everything I wanted to say to her. Jessie sat on the ground held my hand and watched the entire thing as the tears just ran down my face as a result of the happiness that was overflowing from my heart and had to come out through my eyes. Then Jessie and I made a video that I will show the nurse tomorrow when I go to the hospital for chemo. Jessie and I had fun saying she did indeed see the poem. I showed Jessie my tattoo and explained why I have tattoos, and that the other person tattooed on my arm is Talia. Jessie said she knew who Talia was and had followed her story. This was the perfect opportunity to introduce her to Desiree and Mattia and explain why I’m so passionate about childhood cancer, since seven children die a day from childhood cancer, 46 children are diagnosed every day with childhood cancer and it is the leading cause of death for children under the age of 15 in the United States. Sadly, childhood cancer still receives the least amount of funding to find a cure getting only 4% the cancer research money to understand how pediatric cancer forms differently and come up with treatment options specific to treating childhood cancer.  Gold is the color for childhood cancer and September is childhood cancer awareness month so I gave Jessie a fuck cancer beanie with gold writing as well as shared some other ideas on how to bring awareness to pediatric cancer. I told her some secrets like who I have a crush on, I shared other private thoughts and moments for her to carry in her heart for inspiration. I wanted our time together to be one where I could give  back to her, the best of myself through writing, encouragement, laughter. and inspiration. I knew Jesse J was a special person because I can see peoples energy but she goes above and beyond she was severely jetlagged wasn’t feeling well and still made time to do a Make-A-Wish meet and greet before the concert and spent over an hour with me after the concert. I jokingly told her I was so relieved she was nice because I wouldn’t have to get my tattoo removed.

She took pictures with all of us and even invited me to see her in Miami perform so she could sing bald girls instead of bad girls in this song Bang bang! Jessie’s team was trying to arrange to get me onstage with Jess, but as usual the stage was not wheelchair accessible. It  needs to become a priority that all stages become accessible because as long as they are not there is an unspoken message silently screaming that people in wheelchairs or with differences do not belong on the stage or a  platform to be heard. I completely understand because I’ve dealt with this my whole life.  Maybe now that Jessie’s team asked for someone in a wheelchair  to be on stage it will start a small ripple that will change this unspoken discrimination. Jessie being the earth angel that she is, kept her word, I just got back from the Miami concert last night and she absolutely did sing bald girls during bang bang as well as, took the time to give me one more  hug, reassure me that she has my necklace, Tell me she loved me. And made sure Sandra and I we’re all set to get home with the chauffeur her amazing manager Cez arranged when he found out I didn’t have a car to get there. Jessie’s entire team is amazing Alisha, Jessie’s hairstylist waited patiently in the car while Jessie and I hung out. Jessie’s manager Cez made sure everything fell into place with perfection and smiled with joy as I met Jessie. They are all kindhearted legends who’s shoulders Jessie stands on to spread hope, love, empowerment, fun, and realism with the world.  Jessie and her entire team hold a special place in my heart until I see them again and one day I dream of writing a song or working on a creative project with Jessie in person or in spirit however God sees fit. I love you Jessie, Cez and Alisha forever sending you  multitudes of gratitude and carry all you in my heart.

Entering the Last Year of my 30’s Invited a Birthday to Remember

Monday, May 25th, 2015

So often, we hear people complain about getting older, wrinkles or investing in anti-aging products. When, in actuality, aging is a blessing that signifies all of our triumphs, memories and the magical, crazy, beautiful, difficult roller coaster we call life. I remember entering my 29th birthday. I was nervous about preparing to say goodbye to my 20’s and embracing the 30-year mark of my life. Since that time, i’ve gone through so much that makes me not scared, but thrilled to enter the last year of the third decade of my life.  When your health is in question, it truly brings to the forefront how precious life is, and how magical the single universal gift we are each given, multiple times a day, known as breath truly is. So many children never get to experience the teen years, or turning legal at 21, much less the idea of nearing 40. I was lucky enough to have my birthday fall on a Friday, embarking on a 3-day weekend, giving even more time and liberty to celebrate a victorious year.

It started off with getting a tattoo portrait of Talia Joy Castellano. I always get my tattoos done at High Voltage in California, so I was very nervous about the idea of getting a portrait done at home, in Florida, but, after much research, I found an amazing artist named Lily, here in Ft. Lauderdale. Before entering the tattoo shop, I asked Talia for a sign if this was the right thing to do, and the first thing I noticed was there were several portraits that had the blue and pink colors of Talia’s Legacy foundation in them. Then, as I began to discuss ideas for the tattoo, one of Talia’s favorite songs by Nikki Minaj, came on, that I also took as a sign from Talia that I was in the right place. Lily, the artist, went through hundreds of pictures with me, and then visualized and chose the perfect space for the portrait, in between two of my other monumental tattoos. The first one, is the logo for my business, which now gracefully sits right above Talia, and  the second one on my wrist that symbolizes the afterlife and is a replica of the butterfly logo for Lisa  William’s business, to honor that Lisa is my mentor, and the one who helped me embrace living my purpose as a spiritual teacher, medium, and intuitive. I always wanted something between those two significant tattoos for a longtime but never knew what to get, and now the butterfly sits elegantly on what looks like Talia’s neck, which I think is pretty awesome, because on her bucket list, Talia wanted a tattoo now, symbolically, she has one that  is purple, the color for neuroblastoma. The day after the tattoo was done, I keep forgetting that it was there and when I would notice it, I could not stop looking at my arm.  Therefore, I would look down, see it, and say, “Hi, Talia,” each time. Now, I’m sure to be known in my apartment building, as the spiritual girl in the wheelchair who talks to her arm. But, that’s ok, because I’m over the moon happy and that’s what counts.

On my birthday, my bestie, Jenn, took me to the Mac store and I got to pick out two beautiful lipsticks and a eyeshadow palette with a gift certificate as a present.  I also got my cartilage pierced on the left side, to honor Talia and  Mattia Joyce Talia’s big sister. Mattia is such an inspiration as a beautiful young woman inside and out and she is so supportive of Talia’s Legacy and such a sweet friend. I was so excited to have my cartilage done reminding me of their strength and talent with makeup. I had always wanted my cartilage pierced because I thought it looked cool and now,  without hair, it is very noticeable, which I love. During this process came to the realization that getting the tattoo at this point in my fight for a cure was very empowering because it allowed me to have something done to my body that is under my control, when so much that happens with my health and to my body from being sick and in a wheelchair, that is out of  my control. The same holds true with the piercing.

I have to share with you a miraculous incident that happened during the piercing. Even though the gentleman did it with the utmost professionalism, my ear bled quite a bit. I had my spiritual prayer beads that were given to me by my spiritual teacher and guru around my neck. He asked me to remove the beads, so he could get the blood off, however, the blood had gotten on the white thread that the beads are strung onto. The beads are clear so the blood on the thread was very visible. He told me to take it home and put it in some bleach. I said I will although, that was the last thing I wanted to do, because the beads were specially blessed and prepared for me by my teacher, so I wanted to keep them in the condition that they were given to me. Before leaving the shop, I closed my eyes, took a breath, and began  praying to Jesus, Moses, Buddha, G-d, the angels, and all my loved ones in heaven including Talia, to all help restore my beads to their original condition, without the blood. When I took my necklace off at home, to see if I could clean it, there was no sign of blood. This was not only confirmation that prayers are answered, but also  reaffirmed my faith. if a blood-stained thread, can be made clean  by Divine power and love, that same Divine power can touch my body and heal it from any and all illness. Of course, to be healed has to be part of my destiny, tho the possibility for healing is there, and so as I prepare to  enter yet another treatment cycle, I hold firm that the treatment will do what it’s supposed to, giving me back the health  I once had,  and who knows? Maybe one day down the road, I will not be dependent on a wheelchair. No matter what, I will be happy and full of faith, for all that is and all that is yet to come. Tonight, I had another celebration with my two best friends, complete with a beautiful homemade cake decorated in editable make-up , so until I am well, as Talia would say, “Make-up is my wig.” no matter what the outcome, I am truly blessed to have amazing friends, lot of love, a heart full of faith, and I am thrilled to be one year closer to 40!

Destination Happiness

Monday, January 19th, 2015

I can not believe we are halfway through the first month of the year. How many of you have stuck to your New Year’s resolutions? Or, have they long since gone out the window? Have you ever wondered what it would be like to wake up every day with certainty that you are living your best life possible? Have you ever wondered what it would be like to have complete certainty that you are living your life purpose? Have you found your twin flame, or true love? Or are you looking to improve relations with your love again? Are you 100% positive of what you are supposed to be doing in your life, just unsure how to walk down that path? If you’ve answered yes to any of these questions, then Destination Happiness is the course for you. It is a 6-week online course that meets once a week for 90 minutes, beginning January 22 at 7:30 pm EST. During this course, we will cover 5 areas. These areas include: breaking the blockages of your past, unleashing self-confidence, living a powerful present with purpose, unlocking the five secrets to living a more spiritual life, and Step 5 is celebrating at your Destination Happiness, whatever that destination looks like. I also will include two 1-hour sessions with each student to help personalize each individual’s road map to their Destination Happiness, one call at the beginning of the course, and another at the end, to help with any roadblocks. For the first 9 people to sign up, I will offer an additional 1-hour session for free that helps the students see where they are now and where they will be at the end of 6 weeks. 1 session alone is valued at $250, though in the effort to make the course affordable for most, I’m including the whole 6-week course for $495. The weekly online meetings will be live and also recorded, so if students can not attend the live class, a link to the recorded material will be provided. For so much of my life people have asked me to bottle up my happiness and share my tips for overcoming my hallenges, so I’ve prayed and meditated for a long time, figuring out the best way to share these techniques and provide result-driven strategies accessible to the masses. I realize that $495 is not inexpensive, though if you consider it an investment in yourself, with tools that you can use the rest of your life to overcome challenges, live without fear, bring abundance and experience happiness for you and your loved ones, then $495 is small in comparison to the return!

To sign up, go to my website, www.melissahevenor.com Under the “Coaching” program tab, purchase the program Destination Happiness. I recently made a YouTube video detailing more about the class and sharing stories of success with clients and personal triumphs on Youtube. My YouTube channel is mhevenor94. The video is called Destination Happiness. Lets make 2015 the best year of your life so far, and set the path to make each year better and better. Can’t wait to share the Destination Happiness journey with you. Love, light and blessings, Melissa

Happy 2015

Saturday, January 10th, 2015

The end of 2014 ended in a hurricane whirlwind. After returning home from a business trip, I learned I was relocating to a new home. While the circumstances around the move were unexpected and happened rapidly, when I had a second to reflect, I realized the Friday before returning home from a 5-day business trip, I had gone back to the ashram, to see Guruji, and during the visit, participated in a spiritual event removing all negativity from one’s life. I think being a participant catapulted the events eliminating all that from my life which was not motivated by love and light, and thus, facilitated the events of the unexpected move. I love my new place It is in the center of everything and it feels like being in an apartment right in the middle of Manhattan, complete with a scenic view and the busy street life of the city, creating a city life lullaby at all hours of the night, which I actually find soothing as a reminder, that I am part of a great community that is also part of a bigger hodgepodge of magic called the Universe.

I also was blessed to enjoy an amazing Christmas eve and Christmas, filled with gifts, decorations, delicious food and laughs, music, and most importantly, friends who are the chosen family. For New Year’s, along with a new place to live, I have a whole new setup for scheduling appointments, and I am profoundly grateful for everyone’s support and understanding of my decision to raise my prices. New Year’s was filed with beautiful decorations, another smorgasbord of delicious food, dance contests, great conversation, New Year’s resolutions, New Year’s traditions, and an overall magical kick-off for what will, definitely, be one of the best years yet.

I am super-excited, that I will be, for the first time, launching a six-week course called Destination Happiness, providing tools to help get you on the path to more success, more sweetness in your relationships, more savings in your bank account, more security in your decisions, more satisfaction in your career and more spirituality and certainty that you are on the fast track to your own definition of Destination Happiness. This week I will launch a free webinar that details an outline of the class, providing an overview of the five modules that make up the six-week course, and what all is included in this awesome package. If you would like to receive a link to the free webinar, please e-mail me at mhevenor@aol.com with your e-mail. Again, the webinar will be explaining the course but, in doing so, will also provide you with helpful tools on how to promote happiness in all its forms in your life, and the webinar is free! I am so excited to also share that I was blessed to get some new make-up in the holiday season and will use these awesome products to teach how to strengthen one’s aura and energetic health. The class is one of many empowerment experiences that I will be offering this year, in an effort to reach out and share and teach how I remain so positive and connected, in my daily life. There will be other online courses, weekend workshops, one day workshops book signings,  Question-and-answer sessions, online conference calls and numerous opportunities to interact for fun and free. As always, I will continue to offer free e-mail readings to monthly winners (to those who subscribe to follow me on Twitter, Pinterest, Instagram, Youtube, Tumblr, Facebook and GooglePlus).

For a while now, have had a 3-6 month waiting list for readings. If you are thinking about a reading for ourself or for your friends and family, please take this into consideration. Alternatively, I do offer e-mail readings. 3 questions for $150 and 6 questions for $250. The email readings have a faster turnaround. I try to answer the email readings within a week’s time after receiving the initial questions. I also have begun a monthly newsletter, which will offer discounts and promotions as well as updates on what’s going on, upcoming events, and monthly spiritual living tips. The newsletter is free. If you’re interested in receiving the newsletter, aslso, please email me at mhevenor@aol.com

This is only the tip of the iceberg for what is coning this year, so stay tuned , stay connected and lets make 2015 the best year yet for all of us!

A Month of Thanks, and a Whirlwind of Gratitude

Sunday, November 30th, 2014

Gratitude is an adjective that certainly is a verb in my life. Having gratefulnes and gratitude on a daily basis, lthough this month has been filled with a surplus of blessings. It is truly a time of thanksgiving, not from the freedom of a governmental regime, or a religious institution, but a thanks for freedom to nurture a business that revolves around a lifestyle of spirituality, giving back and serving a bigger purpose. My journey of gratitude began at a sell-more summit hosted by the amazing company called “Speaking Empire.” I love what I do with a passion, and I wanted to find a way to inspire and uplift people, aiding and healing on a larger scale, broadening my impact and ability to serve as a vessel to share and spread G-d’s love in a way that also brought abundance and comfort in my life, but most importantly, gives me the opportunity to share my story, my gifts and impact the world, being of service to G-d, and a higher power.

The president of Speaking Empire is Dave Vanhoose, a brilliant businessman, who is fulfilling his spiritual purpose by empowering entrepreneurs in all areas of business, who desire to serve a larger purpose making the world a better place. I was able to make connections at this summit that will forever positively impact me as a person, and my spiritual business. Friendships were made that will last, I am positive, a lifetime, and I am so proud of being a part of the Speaking Empire family. This business venture will give me the opportunity to travel internationally, inspiring people and sharing my spiritual abilities. I have a whole new framework, for thinking about my gifts in terms of business that can serve a larger purpose.

If this was not enough, I was blessed to be invited to an ashram in Tampa, where Dave’s spiritual teacher and guru resides, in order to enlighten the area and help people develop spiritually, through her love and divine connection. The ashram was amazing. Entering the house is like entering a whole other dimensions of living. You sit on the floor at the feet of the guru, as she teaches about various topics. The walls are filled with flowers, hand-painted, in every color, as the guru chose to invite the garden in, since the presence of oak trees made it difficult to grow a flourishing flower garden on the outside. Everyone at the ashram is vegetarian, and the food was amazing! We ate only three times a day, soups which were more like stews, filled with beans, vegetables and rice, and were not hungry for hours in-between meals, only eating three meals a day. We arrived at the ashram anywhere from 10-11 a.m., had breakfast, then the guru would teach until around 4, we would eat again, as a group, on the floor, and she would proceed to teach until 8:30 at night when we would eat dinner together. I felt so at home there. I learned much more than I could ever share in one blog, but three of the most impactful things that happened were I decided to become vegetarian, after having the guru explain that when we ingest meat, we are putting our bodies’ vibrations to a vibration equivalent to a graveyard. As a spiritual person who understands the importance of energetic vibration, this was a way of conceptualizing vegetarianism in a way that immediately released me from any desire to consume meat, wanting to eat only plants, who willingly give their vegetable sand fruits, She went on to explain that karmically, we are ingesting all the negativity and karma that the animals experienced before and during losing their lives, because an animal’s natural instinct is to survive. The next thing that impacted me deeply was understanding that we should all eliminate the phrase “I don’t know” from our vocabularies, because stating “I don’t know” diminishes the idea that we are part of the “I am” or G-d that created us. it is okay to replace that phrase with “I will find out…” or that’s a great question,” as long as you’re not combining “I don’t know.” To do so, you are lowering your vibration to a negative 20, no matter how spiritual or enlightened you may be, every time you say it. The last thing she opened my eyes to, was the idea that it is not good to wear the color black. If you mix any other color with the color black, the color always remains black. Therefore, when we wear black on our bodies, we are cutting off light and the energy chakra points. She said people are drawn to wearing black and having black cars, because black feeds the ego, causing separation from others, separation from the light, and isolating us as individuals, and allowing us to blend in or fade in the background, denying our own divine connection. This was so eye-opening for me I immediately went shopping after the first day, and bought more white clothes and eliminated all my black underwear and my favorite black evening gown, because the last thing I want is to be separated from the light, and embrace a way of life that blocks my chakra points, causing isolation or blending in. Needless to say, I am now a vegetarian, although I am currently consuming some fish, doing things in baby steps, but I have thrown away almost all black garments, except those that have sentimental value and I am much more conscious of the amount of black that is in retail stores, particularly in the winter.

Not to say that these are choices that everyone needs to make, but I would certainly suggest considering it, and being more aware when you eat and shop. I have already noticed a positive effect on my readings, physical health, and daily connection with G-d. Therefore, I felt a sense of gratitude greater on this Thanksgiving than I ever have, and I did not consume any turkey!

The Sweet Spirit of Harvest-Happy Haunted Halloween and So Much More

Tuesday, November 4th, 2014

Halloween, 2014, was awesome! I don’t celebrate Halloween and I clarify that because so many people were asking me how to celebrate Halloween or what it means. Forgive me if I’m wrong, but I believe those who celebrate Halloween are practicing witches, no pun intended. It is the day to honor the dead, and different rituals are practiced under the moon, in an effort to honor those in Spirit. While I tease about being a “witchy-woo,” a phrase I borrowed from my teacher, Lisa Williams, I am, by no means, a witch. I consider myself a Kabbalist, because Kabbalah allows you to embrace both a Christian foundation and honor Jewish traditions. Kabbalah is the study of the mystic side of Judaism. Mystic meaning there are mysterious ways that G-d and energy works, and in that discreet maneuver, there is a code, or underlying system, that we strive to understand, bringing us closer to G-d, or the light. Often, people view someone who has intuitive ability or speaks to the departed, as a witch. I think that that is, in part, because it is  misunderstood how those like myself, do the things that we do. And, while it is a gift that i cherish and am blessed to have, it is something that all of us can acquire. In fact, think of it as the ability to play an instrument. The majority of us have what it takes to play an instrument, though some have a natural innate talent for doing so that others of us have to work harder to acquire. Because this sort of gift runs in my family, I guess genetically, I am predisposed to having the abilities and, because I began experiencing and understanding that they existed, I have had longer to perfect my ability and feel comfortable with it. All of us have the potential to expand and develop spiritual gifts. It is a matter of personal dedication and practice while understanding the sacred significance of using such gifts to enlighten and help, rather than for personal gain, or using such abilities for selfish reasons.

I love to dress up on Halloween, because I have always had a fascination with performing and love the ability to play someone else for the night on Halloween. I saw the movie, “Maleficent,” in May and fell in love. It is the background story of the villain from Sleeping Beauty. I love the movie because it dives into the psychology of what turns a person, who, in this case, happens to be a fairy, into someone evil and resentful, and what it takes, to bring that person out of that space of darkness and back to a place of love and light. Although a person can never be the same as before the events of life took place, one can find the love and light they experience by putting those events in the past behind them, and realizing that it is those same events that make us a stronger, more experienced individual in the present. While Maleficent’s journey is one of a fairy, her story is one that resonates with all of us who have been betrayed by someone we love, and must find a way to trust ourselves, as well as other people, again.  The message of love and resilience was so powerful. Immediately after the movie, I knew I wanted to embody Maleficent for Halloween, and so I did. I had so much fun doing that, I even took on another character, named Kelly from Cali. If you’d like to see it, please watch my YouTube video on my YouTube channel, mhevenor94

The video is called Halloween Part II, Maleficent - A Mac Haul and Meet Kelly from Cali. I also will continue to choose monthly, three subscribers from my channel, to win a free reading, so please subscribe. It is free to start an account, easy and you get notification when I upload a new video, I also make videos based on requests about what people want to learn about, and cover various spiritual topics as well as make-up reviews and tips, so check it out.

No matter how old you get, you never get too old for a sleep over. And, one of my best friends, Jennifer, spent the night on Halloween and we had a great time! Halloween where I live, is like few places in the United States. They block off at least five blocks, and have numerous costume contests. One of my favorite aspects about Halloween in the particular area near Fort Lauderdale is that you will see all types of couples: men with men, women with women, and of course, heterosexual couples. Everyone is so respectful of each other, so kind and no one gets out of control. It becomes like a little island of utopia dressed up in extravagant costumes that have been planned the whole year prior to Halloween. If, for no other reason, go watch my video to see these lavish costumes. I have also had some more amazing experiences with my readings .G-d is incredible and I feel so blessed to be a messenger, able to connect people to their loved ones in Spirit, explaining that it is not a process of disrupting the deceased, who are in heaven. When someone passes, they are no longer contained by their physical body, and therefore, their spirit has no physical limitations. So, from my understanding, 90% of a person who has passed’s spirit will be in heaven, while 10% ascends closer to the earth plane in order to connect with me so that I can give their message to the loved ones. In fact, reincarnation works in much the same way. It is only about 10% of the person’s spirit that reincarnates to a new life. The rest of the spirit remains in heaven. Therefore, if we or someone we know passes away, their loved one can greet them in heaven and also be in the middle of a journey of a new life at the same time. So, in most cases, when we pass, we do reconnect with our loved ones who passed before us, unless they are going through some spiritual learning and healing process, but that is a much bigger topic I’ll have to cover in another blog.

This is an exciting month because I will be going on the Talia’s Legacy cruise, to benefit childhood cancer through her foundation, and I will also be attending a week-long workshop to coordinate for international travel and inspirational show tour dates. More to come on that very soon, but super-excited! I hope everyone had a safe and happy Halloween. Enjoy these last two months of 2014, because it is a year that we can never live again, and we are coming upon the holiday season, which can often be difficult for those who don’t have family, but ‘family” does not have to be defined by blood or genealogy. “Family” is defined as those that support us on our journey, help us grow, teach us tolerance, and love us in our darkest hour, shining glimmer of light until we find the bacon of light at the end of the tunnel. If you feel or find that you don’t have someone who serves in that way for you, remember that myself, the Psychic in your Pocket, does my videos and blogs for no other reason but to share my heart, to give you a little bit of light and happiness on your journey, through whatever storms may come.

Happy October - Jumping into the Jewish New Year with Style, Spirit and a Heart of Gratitude

Monday, October 6th, 2014

Happy New Year to all who celebrate Rosh HaShanna! May the new year have a sweetness that lasts the whole year through, bathed in happiness, peace and gratitude. I have new and exciting news. I briefly mentioned in a previous blog, that I was going to be a representative for a local yoga pants company. It’s official! I am a yoga pants Ambassador, and for all my friends and family, which includes my fans, you can receive a 10% discount on the “Pants that make you dance,” @ www.buddhapants.com and enter my Ambassador code: mhevenor_10   If you practice yoga, dance or just love feeling comfy, these pants are amazing with a wide variety of styles, patterns and colors to express your personality. The other really neat characteristic they have is they pack into their own pocket, creating a compact pillow that can be used to sit on, rest on, or just for easy travel. Since starting my wheelchair yoga class, I have fallen in love with my Buddhapants! I have also used them for meditation practices, teaching spiritual classes about the chakras, and doing energy clearing, of public workspaces and private homes. With each new activity or adventure, I love them even more. I’ve recently had the honor of doing readings for people in the UK, France, Cuba, Spain, New Zealand, and Egypt. I love expanding the geographical locations where I can serve Spirit, bringing the heavenly plane a little closer in reach. One thing I have learned when doing readings for people from various cultures, is a language barrier does not exist, because the language of love and tolerance, experienced by those in the kingdom of G-d, is universal in meaning and my guide, or those in spirit, always find a way to communicate using signs and symbols that I can relate to, in order to piece together the message for clients.

I’m continuing to serve as a childhood cancer awareness advocate, and super excited for upcoming events that will benefit pediatric cancer through the American Cancer Society. I’m also excited to announce that I will be attending a large conference in November, filled with various light workers and energy healers from all over the world, to put together a program of inspirational speaking, giving me the opportunity to travel, nationally and internationally, to spread my message of love, perseverance and inspiration to never give up, while collaborating with some of today’s most influential and innovative spiritual teachers and/or inspirational authors. I’m also currently working on a project that will provide chapters of my book read on video while I answer commentary questions about the book.  This is to provide a deeper understanding of my personal story, and, of course, spread an inspirational message to more readers.

Most recently, I joined forces with a clothing line that encourages “dis-abling” your limits, no matter how those limits manifest themselves. There are a wide variety of T-shirts for all shapes and sizes, and the founder of this company, Jimmy Curran, is inspiring and amazing, not to mention good-looking. The website is: disablethebrand.com   I have also been continuing my love affair with make-up, sharing inspired make-up looks while mixing in spiritual , energetic benefits of utilizing various colors in your make-up routine. Please follow me on Instagram to receive daily inspiration and of course, subscribe to my Youtube channel, mhevenor94 for your chance to receive a free reading. Three subscribers will be chosen once a month for a free reading. I love all of you so much and my dedication to Spirit and spiritual teaching truly gets me up in the morning. Thank you for your continued support, and until next time, love, light and blessings

Forgiveness, Healing and the Understanding of Heaven and “Hell”

Thursday, September 18th, 2014

This past week has been an amazing journey for me as a medium and a spiritual teacher. On Thursday, I had the honor of doing a reading with a long-time client, and it turned out that her loved one who had dark family secrets, showed up at 9:00 in the morning, before my first appointment, because he needed to explain himself. I knew his energy because I had seen pictures of him and he came through strong because he had been passed for over ten years.Thankfully,  my first appointment was not for an hour and-a-half, so I had time to listen to him. He wanted to explain to me why he made choices that victimized other members of his family, leading to deep, dark family secrets that have recently come to the surface. And, the family still here have been left to deal with the pain and the memory of his choices. He explained why he did the things that he did, not as a way to justify or excuse them, but to explain his mentality behind them, as distorted and disturbed as it was at the time, it made sense to him. He also described different events in his own personal journey that led to his thinking process. He had a great sense of humor that was equally partnered with deep sorrow and regret for his poor choices. He also had a sense of relief as he explained that hell was not as he had been taught, a fiery pit. Hell is actually a dimension lower than heaven but one level higher than earth, that he described a s a “holding space,” or spiritual healing place. To make it reasonably comprehensible, he described it as a doctor’s waiting room, or in this case, to ascend to heaven. While you are waiting, you have the option to read your own personal record, that details your last incarnation, as well as other past lives to look over your own spiritual growth, and also to see what possibly lies ahead in future lifetimes.

You spend this time reading or going through your records as part of the healing process, as people in your family forgive you, it allows more light into the spirit, creating a greater ascension, bringing you closer to that heavenly light. During each phase of the healing, G-d or a higher power, helps you evaluate your life and what you’re learning, to prepare your spirit for the complete rapture of white light and ascension into the heavenly plane. The longer it takes for forgiveness to happen, the longer you are left waiting in the “waiting room,” in this in-between space. Although other loved ones who have already ascended to heaven have the option of visiting. Therefore, he had been visited by loved ones who had ascended directly to heaven. The ones who go directly to heaven have the freedom to explore and visit the dimensions quite easily. Not only is the ascension to heaven contingent on others forgiving that person, but it is also imperative that the spirit who is waiting forgive him or herself. It is only when all parties forgive, that full ascension to heaven can be reached. It is important to understand, though, that on the other side, there is no concept of time like we have here, so literally a year here is equivalent to a blink of the eye to those on the other side. Alrthough he had been passed, for many, many years, his healing could only go so far until the secrets were revealed and worked through, but the time is very different for him than those here. the other thing that he helped me to understand is that if it turns out that someone does not forgive, or that a spirit does not forgive themselves, they still have the opportunity for reincarnation, where they will be put in circumstances to teach and clear the leftover karma from those previous choices.

This got me to thinking, my mother took her own life, and she has gone through a great deal of healing since her passing and ascended to the light after one year’s time, however she was notorious when she was here, for running away, and first did at the age of 12, and then repeatedly until the age of 21, when she had me. Is it possible that my inability to run or limited m ability, is a karmic result of her inability to stay? If so, I am fine with it, because I truly believe that my physical limitation helps me exceed spiritually, and I feel complete and able-bodied in so many other aspects, that I never really view myself as disabled anyway. Yet, on the outside, my mother looked completely able-bodied, complete with numerous talents, and great sense of humor and an amazing intellect. Thoughn her ability to sustain and live life was very limited. It just makes you wonder how much of an impact forgiveness plays on our own life, those who have passed, and those yet to come. It was also very difficult for my mother to forgive, and she was notorious for holding grudges forever, which in turn, ended up hurting her more that the other people. I on the other hand, am quick to forgive and always happy to move forward. So, I guess yuou could sauy she had little mobility too, but it was in terms of her emotional mobility. This client’s loved one definitely got me to htingking of residual karma, and how it  impacts one to other. This particular reading gave me a deeper understanding of the afterlife.

So although I often help those who have ascended to the white light communicate, I choose to spend very little time understanding the dimension s that are darker than the white light. this reading helped me understand what goes on when someone does not ascend to heaven and it was healing for the client as well. I now understand that it is on a lower plane, where healing takes place.

Then, fast forward to Saturday, where I taught a standing room only, chakra class. Initially ,when i began teaching, the students were distracted and not completely paying attention. Then, I began talking about my work as a therapist and how the aura and the health of one’s energy plays a part in overall wellness, and it got their attention. At first, several people were taken aback by the fact that I do not have an office, so my in-person readings happen in a community- based area such as a coffee shop or cafe, although at the end of the class, I spoke to several of the students individually for 15 minutes and was so in the zone, “on a higher dimension than the earth plane, which I like to call the “fourth dimension,” that the same individuals who were uncomfortable that I did readings in a public place, changed their minds. When I spoke to them briefly, after the class, they felt the ascension to that other plane, and it was as though we’re the only ones in the room.

Bringing me back to the original reading that I discussed above, I now understand that I take the client into that space where teaching, healing and enlightenment combine, so I can take them closer to the Divine Energy. This is why, in meditation, I got that I am a fourth dimension advisor. I take the client to a place where healing can happen. When it is their time, maybe they can move more quickly to the dimension of heaven. Only god can say if that is so, but I do know that our time together helps them to ascend from the earth plane in order to understand something from a higher perspective, and they’re not as far from the Divine as they may think.

The empowerment to love others stems from the presence and acknowledgement to enrapture one’s spirit in self-love

Thursday, September 4th, 2014

As I stated a few days ago, “the waters of change are here, and I am going to make a splash and cause a ripple effect of positive change, beyond the mind’s comprehension.” So many doors of opportunity have not only cracked open but have swung open, with a red carpet lining the path that is a new and exciting chapter in  my spiritual development, career and journey known as life. Why is this fork different from other forks in the road that promised opportunities paving the way for dreams to come true? The difference is my readiness to embrace self-love that begins by acknowledging flaws and embracing the imperfections while working on self-improvement as a process free of expectations. doing things that bring me peace and happiness will, hopefully, inspire and uplift others to live authentically , with the cards they are dealt, being unafraid to shuffle them, embracing a sequence pattern that was once unknown. In other words, the unknown  no longer evokes fear, because there is certainty  in the understanding that at some level, or on some dimension, there is a higher power, that is, ultimately in charge and is ready to fully support and perpetuate your highest potential. Once you find the inner strength and self-worth to believe in that potential, you will  unapologetically walk the path of your life’s purpose with peace, happiness, and contentment in your role within society,that exudes greatness beyond the third dimension,

Opportunities to be photographed and celebrated for my differences that set me apart form others, have fallen  into place, with the logistics of contracts signed, and creative projects underway that highlight the strength of the human spirit to rise above any misfortune, as demonstrated by my individual story, yet celebratory and universal in nature. For all who understand that no matter  how difficult one’s life is during their current incarnation, their spirit chose these intricate details of their life path. G-d would only grant such a journey if there is belief that each individual’s spirit is strong enough to endure this chosen lifetime, in an effort to perpetuate spiritual growth, reaching for nirvana, o r enlightenment, using the present life as a springboard, to allow more light into your energetic spiritual body. Ultimately , it is only after embracing and loving our own shadows, illuminating our own inner strength, that we can reach a deeper long-lasting  inner flame, that burns so brightly it sets the darkest corners of the earth ablaze with an eternal abundance of divine love.

Fashionably Rolling into Fall

Wednesday, August 20th, 2014

Life, lately, has been a whirlwind. so excited to include clientele in Scotland, Germany, Korea, Denmark, Moscow and additional areas in Australia. It is a perfect example how Spirit is limitless and can offer messages of guidance, love, wisdom, growth, medical intuition and, of course, connect others to their loved ones in heaven regardless of a client’s location in the world. I’m also excited to continue to serve the local community and have found a new local “office space,” at a family-owned coffee shop, tucked away in a hidden little village in Wilton Manors. Also, earlier this month, I celebrated Talia Joy Castellano’s birthday in heaven where she turned 15, enjoying her favorite coffee drink from Starbucks and continuing to use her beauty guru wisdom and technique in my own exploration and enjoyment of make-up. This is a whole new community of artistic individuals that I can help to inspire and learn from. Of course, I am a work in progress, and continue to improve, while having fun at the same time, and look forward to up and coming opportunities to join forces with other local beauty gurus to inspire and create a connection between the world of physical beauty and accentuating an individual’s energetic beauty,by balancing the aura with the help and fun artistic endeavor of make-up. To learn how to enhance your energetic health as well as trending beauty tips, follow me on Pinterest, particularly my board called “Everything Make-Up and Nails.” I am also posting regularly on Instagram.

Earlier today, with the help of two of my best friends, I completed the ALS Ice Bucket Challenge, and nominated three people to follow suit. Check that out on YouTube. My channel is mhevenor94.

I am excited to begin a new journey with wheelchair yoga, which I will share with all of you and continuing to work on my new book/movie project. So many new, exciting projects. Stay tuned to follow and enhance your spiritual development, while enjoying the journey with me.

Fashionably fall into your fabulousness!

Love, light and blessings, Melissa