Melissa Hevenor
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Beauty Starts within and Shines Outward

Tuesday, August 12th, 2014

So many things are happening now, both energetically and physically, I am very proud to announce that the Mint Mani fundraiser for Talia was a great success, and I’m very grateful to everyone who participated, making a donation in order to get an e-mail reading. It is so important to lift others up when they are going through a hard time, and even with all the challenges Talia faced with neuroblastoma, losing her hair and later on, pre-leukemia, she found a way to express her personality and continue to enlighten people and inspire people with her make-up. She is just one of thousands of children who have battled, and will battle, the monster known as cancer.

I have always had a fascination with make-up and fashion, since I was very young.  Although I did not grow up with role models who were able to show me how to be able to do girly things like make-up, eyelashes or fix my hair, most of what I know I learned by watching others or taught myself. Make-up and fashion are another art form and anyone who knows me well, knows that I am an artist at heart, loving the art of music, dance, anything within the constructs of artistic endeavors. In fact, being in the Drama club at school, and singing, was often a lifeline in a challenging upbringing that also fostered my aspiration for make-up artistry as I diligently watched the costume and make-up professionals that assisted with different theatrical productions. Later on, when I found myself doing large events of readings in front of large audiences and on stage, the need to look glamorous and better educate myself with make-up became even more important and that’s when I stumbled upon Talia’s make-up tutorials.

I share this with you, not only to honor Talia and thank you for the accomplishment reached with the fundraiser, but also to shed light and inspiration, in hopes that people will realize, often a person’s battle is much more challenging than you realize and you never realize how your words can affect someone. I recently started posting more on Facebook and other social media platforms about make-up and fashion, because both make-up and fashion, can be another avenue to enhance your spirituality, even wearing colors of make-up and/or clothing that correlate with the chakras, strengthens your energetic body. To my utter surprise, I received  nearly 100 responses from clients, strangers and colleagues in the spiritual field, criticizing me for posting about make-up, saying everything from, “As a spiritual person, I shouldn’t get caught up in things that relate to vanity,” to “I cannot expect to be great at everything,,” and “half the time I don’t even wear make-up, so how can I post about something I know nothing about?” These comments were actually the nicest, there were others that blatantly attacked my physique, and my lack of fashion sense. Usually, I delete such responses with love and go about my life. However, this time I could not do it as easily, because there were so many of them, and I thought it was a great lesson to demonstrate what it’s like to be in someone else’s shoes, and how your words will impact them. I haven’t shared this too much with the public, but from age 11, until 25, I battled not one but two eating disorders, predominantly anorexia, with occasional bouts of bulimia. Of course, as is always the case, the eating disorders were less about my physical appearance, but more about finding a way to have control of my body. which I often felt I lacked, because of my environment and perhaps, in light of my being disabled. After many years of therapy, journaling and becoming a counselor myself, I can say wholeheartedly, that I have recovered and have been recovered, since the age of 26. Part of the reason why I love what I do is it allows me to uplift and inspire people, by using the struggles that I have overcome myself as stepping stones and encouragement for others. It took a lot of hard work and dedication to get to a place where I can do whatever I want with my hair, make-up &/or fashion and not really care what anyone thinks, as long as it makes me happy. A lot of people know that I take a lot of “selfies” and smile often, but the strength to do that was not a characteristic easily acquired. As I pose for each “selfie,” and bravely experiment with hairstyles and fashion, I hope to serve as an inspiration for all girls and boys alike, who have ever felt unworthy or unattractive, that the future does get brighter, and the strength you have within, to reach for the future and continue moving forward, no matter how slow, is far more beautiful than any physical trait on the outside. I realize the more I strive to spread light and love, the more I will be faced with negativity and criticism from some people, and that that is ok, as long as I have inspired or helped one person, I’ll continue to spread that love and light, in as many ways as possible, embracing and sharing my interests, always finding a way to incorporate spirituality and divine love. I have started a hashtag campaign with a friend of mine in Australia, where we’re going to be sharing our favorite make-up products or looks on Instagram, Tumblr and Twitter, and put the #swimminmakeup4talia. If you would like to share tips or see what we come up with, keep an eye out for this hashtag. Please join in the fun- the more the merrier. And, most important, remember, no matter what, the greatest beauty comes from within, springing from your heart, until it is shared outward.