Melissa Hevenor
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A Dream Come True: The Journey To Meeting Jessie J

Thursday, April 14th, 2016

It’s been such a long time since I felt inspired to blog because my life has consisted predominately of feeling sick, going to the hospital getting treatment and coming back feeling worse during the battle for my life. Even so, overall I’m still a happy person,  I pray a lot, listen to music and use makeup to keep myself sane and inspired. I love all types of music and music has been a part of my life since I was very little in huge way. At age 5 I started taking voice lessons at the YMCA realizing very early when I was singing it didn’t matter that I was in a wheelchair. people saw my heart they didn’t assume that I wasn’t intelligent they didn’t care that couldn’t run across the playground they saw who I really was inside and not differences. Music helped me get through a world wind childhood filled with a sick mother who was a prisoner of multiple addictions. It wasn’t long before I started entering voice competitions to earn money for food and for what I called my  just in case money stash to give me a sense of security to care for me and my sister. Those circumstances put a lot of pressure on me to succeed, instead, of concentrating on that pressure, I made it a game against myself to always keep improving.

Late at night when I couldn’t sleep because I was hungry or because my mom had not returned home I would hold my hand brush in my hand and pretend to be Singing on stage with Whitney Houston as I belted it out “Saving All My Love For You” at eight years old. Whitney Houston was what I strived to be as a Singer. Fast forward to age 17 doing a voice competition in a small theater Washington D.C.I was offered a record deal. With a broken heart I turned it down because I couldn’t imagine leaving my sister and because I was a minor and my mother was too jealous to grant me the permission. My mother also could sing before drugs and alcohol destroyed her voice she could sing along with Barbra Streisand and you absolutely could not tell the difference between her voice and the record. I went into a deep depression for about a year because I wasn’t able to take that opportunity after working so hard. However, I never stopped getting good grades in school because I knew good grades and education was my only chance to do better for myself and my sister. Thank God, I had two Aunts my grandmother’s sisters who wanted me to have the world and showed me what unconditional love was. My aunt encouraged me to join the drama club when I started high school as well as choir because she saw how fearless I was on stage and how much I loved it. She used to say it may not be easy for you to get opportunity to be in front of crowds because of your differences but the world needs to see you on the stage to make a difference on a large-scale. Getting the chance to audition for Tish School of the arts in New York City was amazing and my Aunt  put money aside to save up for the train tickets and the hotel as the audition process was a  two day thing. I did my audition in front of a panel of five faculty I put my whole  heart into it, a full portfolio of how I would Direct a play by Tennessee Williams.
I was devastated when I didn’t get in until at the very last moment a professor came running out who had been on the panel and said, ” please don’t be discouraged your audition was flawless, logistically the school would be very difficult for you to manage with your wheelchair, the buildings are old elevators don’t work and the amounts of snow that we get in the winter. Of course, the rest of the panel will deny this as the reason but I could not put my head down tonight having you think it was because your audition was not good enough. There’s many amazing art schools out there just put your whole heart in that’s what matters. This was the first time I began to understand that my talent may not be enough so I started studying psychology and that’s the direction my life took. I don’t regret it at all because it prepared me for where I am now to use my intuitive/ Mediumship  skills to help people in a therapeutic way. Music was  on the front burner again as I started taking art therapy classes and realizing how much music and writing helped people with healing. Getting accepted into the University of Maryland I wanted to take dance classes as my electives. Of course, the faculty was not happy thinking I would not be able to show my skills so  how would I be graded. This time I wouldn’t take no for an answer because it was just elective classes so I learned dance notation and I could verbally tell the dancers the different routines. At the end the faculty thanked to me saying that the dancers became better dancers having to learn to truly listen to verbal instruction of the choreography.

Working as a student therapist as student Director of the suicide crisis hot line and going to school full-time in my masters program was extremely demanding so to relax at home I would watch YouTube videos of young singers when I came across Jessie J singing Big White Room. I was one of the first 100 views on that video which now has so many but I knew in that moment she would be a massive star. She had edginess of Janis Joplin the elegance of Whitney Houston and and infectious loving quality similar to the energy of Princess Diana even in the very beginning. Eventually I had to have my thyroid removed because it just stopped working once I had that surgery I was unable to sing the same way again we now know the collapse of my thyroid was probably the first sign the rare form of cancer I am now fighting that had not been diagnosed at that time. Jessie J’s passion and talent helped me  through the sadness of not being able to sing the same, even though, I could hear the music the same way and it resonated to my core, I could not reproduce the notes that I heard with the same precision.

In 2010 I lost my job as a counselor due to cutbacks and I live on savings as long as I could. When I finally lost my house in 2012 because I couldn’t make the payments, as I was packing up my belongings Jessie J’s first album who you are was playing in the background. I will never forget praying to God to give me strength and to keep happiness in my heart even through the darkness I was facing much of the time sitting alone parking  my belongings for Storage because my family had gone to heaven. The one person’s voice that was always there in the background was Jessie’s. Thankfully  had amazing friends who helped me a as much as they could but late at night when the tears would flow it was God myself and Jess.

Slowly I began  to build clientele giving intuitive readings something I had done on the side for free just to help people for years. I began to understand this was gods way of getting me on my life’s purpose to really own the gifts he had  given because I’m a very loyal person and otherwise I never would’ve quit my job to follow the path as a spiritual teacher. Having success slowly building my own business with various opportunities to do readings on stage. Most stages are not wheelchair accessible and even though, I was the entertainment often I would have to do the readings or inspirational speaking on the ground or floor in front of the stage rather than on the stage. My preparation to get ready for readings has always been listening to music beforehand, music that usually consists of pop R&B or hip hop and traveling as far as Australia to study mediumship.

The most recent challenge I’ve had to deal with for the last three years is battling cancer thank God for Technology that allows me to do readings worldwide by email or Skype in between treatment on the occasions when I’m feeling halfway normal. As usual whether I’m going into emergency surgery to remove my port because of infection, or going in for treatment Jessie J’s singing through my phone. Hearing her voice sing conquer the world even regulated my heart beat while under anesthesia.

The power of social media and an Earth Angel disguised as a Record label executive colliding with me with the help of another Earth angel who is now in heaven named Talia Castellano who taught me through her YouTube videos how to apply makeup for my public readings and inspirational speaking. Before losing her battle to childhood cancer Talia I became friends and when I was diagnosed with cancer 31/2 years ago she was my counselor even at the young age of 12.  Now I honor her by helping to carry on her legacy and finding a cure for childhood cancer because after going through this myself I’m determined no child should go through it! Working her magic from heaven she helped Jessie’s Record label  follow me and  offer to help me get tickets if JessIe performed in Florida. Not only did I get to go to Universal Studios to see her perform but was granted the opportunity to meet her.

On April 9 with 101 fever the whole night before due to an enlarged spleen from a buildup of cancer cells and an infection and pain as a result of the enlargement. I was unable to leave on the three hour car ride up to Orlando until 1230 in afternoon. After coming up with a pain medication routine and reclining the passenger seat as far back as possible we began on the journey to make the ride to Talia’s house which was about 40 minutes from Universal Studios where the concert would be that evening. Talia’s sister Mattia and mom Desiree have become part of my family and a huge support system during my own Battle with this beast known as cancer. Therefore, I wanted them to join me in this exciting Adventure of meeting Jessie J.  My friend Sandra who is my sister by choice because she’s been with me through everything losing my job losing my house losing my health traveling an hour once a week just to bring food because I couldn’t afford to buy any or because I was too sick to make it myself. Sandra is my very best friend, she knows my heart, she knows my faults, she knows my flaws, she knows my happiness, knows my sadness, she knows my abilities and my disabilities and loves me no matter what.  So she also had to be a part of this is special celebration of life through Jessie’s music.

When we arrived at the house we only have an hour before we had to leave for the concert so we quickly got out of the car and  Mattia did my makeup while Desiree Talia’s mom painted my nails. (Talia’s sister who is an amazing makeup artist like her little sister Taliajoy18 on YouTube. Although, Mattia Joyce who is also on YouTube has her own sense of style, her own sense of humor and a talent all her own while carrying on the beautiful Legacy of her little sister. ) Helping me get glammed up is something that comes very natural for Mattia and Desiree because they continue a program Talia started called Glam Wars where they go into children’s hospitals and give makeovers two little girls going through chemo and face painting to little boys going through chemo to  help them feel more confident and happy during their fight. CoverGirl provides all the makeup for the program Since Talia became an honorary Cover Girl on the Ellen  show.( To find out more about this program please go to taliaslegacy.org)

Rushing out the door we head to Universal Studios arriving early until we realize how long the customer service line was where we were supposed to pick up the passes to go to the concert. Then I find out Jessie was running late. Before long the show was about to start so meeting Jessie was delayed until after the show. I began to worry maybe we would run out of time or maybe it wouldn’t happen that is until, I reminded myself I had asked Talia to send me a sign that she would be with me in spirit. Days earlier I asked her to send me a feather representing one of her Angel feathers. Hours before the concert , Jessie posted on Instagram a picture of a hummingbird made out of paper or  Kleenex  held in someone’s hand but what stood out in the picture was the delicate beautiful feathers that were part of the hummingbird and I knew that was my sign from Talia. I sang my heart out to every song watching Jessie on the big screen because the wheelchair accessible Area was pretty far back. When the song Bang Bang came onI got a text it was the last song to start heading over where we would meet her. So we all rushed over to where we were supposed to meet her before the show. When we got there and there was a young man he said no she’s meeting you somewhere else. We followed the path through the back ways of the park and my heart began to pound as I realized how close I was to meeting her something I wanted to do for years. If I was able to get up from my wheelchair and run I would have at that moment. As we approached Jessie was seated halfway in her rental car in the passenger seat and again my brain started thinking oh she’s ready to leave she’s going to say hi and take off. This was a huge lesson for me because fear allows our mind to create a story that is so different from god’s plan. Jessie stepped out of the car walked over to me and knelt down to be at eye level with me in my wheelchair. I started to cry and I explained to her it wasn’t because she was famous it wasn’t because she was JessieJ, tears were flowing because since my family is in heaven her voice through her music is always there no matter what and to be in front of her for that reason was overwhelming. I gave her a necklace I designed that is a guitar pick that says Jessie your music helps me breathe Friends forever on the front and a music note on the back. I have a matching one that I wear all the time for inspiration and now she would have hers. Then I asked her if I could show her one more thing? Jessie replied of course you can! I apologized because I told her it was 17 minutes long, I wrote a poem using all her song titles from each of her three albums and made a video of it on YouTube. (I wrote it when I was very sick in the hospital in intensive care and the nurse told me I should be resting, it was a waste of time because Jessie would never see it. My dream was for Jessie to see the poem because I have an easier time expressing myself through writing and the poem embodied everything I wanted to say to her. Jessie sat on the ground held my hand and watched the entire thing as the tears just ran down my face as a result of the happiness that was overflowing from my heart and had to come out through my eyes. Then Jessie and I made a video that I will show the nurse tomorrow when I go to the hospital for chemo. Jessie and I had fun saying she did indeed see the poem. I showed Jessie my tattoo and explained why I have tattoos, and that the other person tattooed on my arm is Talia. Jessie said she knew who Talia was and had followed her story. This was the perfect opportunity to introduce her to Desiree and Mattia and explain why I’m so passionate about childhood cancer, since seven children die a day from childhood cancer, 46 children are diagnosed every day with childhood cancer and it is the leading cause of death for children under the age of 15 in the United States. Sadly, childhood cancer still receives the least amount of funding to find a cure getting only 4% the cancer research money to understand how pediatric cancer forms differently and come up with treatment options specific to treating childhood cancer.  Gold is the color for childhood cancer and September is childhood cancer awareness month so I gave Jessie a fuck cancer beanie with gold writing as well as shared some other ideas on how to bring awareness to pediatric cancer. I told her some secrets like who I have a crush on, I shared other private thoughts and moments for her to carry in her heart for inspiration. I wanted our time together to be one where I could give  back to her, the best of myself through writing, encouragement, laughter. and inspiration. I knew Jesse J was a special person because I can see peoples energy but she goes above and beyond she was severely jetlagged wasn’t feeling well and still made time to do a Make-A-Wish meet and greet before the concert and spent over an hour with me after the concert. I jokingly told her I was so relieved she was nice because I wouldn’t have to get my tattoo removed.

She took pictures with all of us and even invited me to see her in Miami perform so she could sing bald girls instead of bad girls in this song Bang bang! Jessie’s team was trying to arrange to get me onstage with Jess, but as usual the stage was not wheelchair accessible. It  needs to become a priority that all stages become accessible because as long as they are not there is an unspoken message silently screaming that people in wheelchairs or with differences do not belong on the stage or a  platform to be heard. I completely understand because I’ve dealt with this my whole life.  Maybe now that Jessie’s team asked for someone in a wheelchair  to be on stage it will start a small ripple that will change this unspoken discrimination. Jessie being the earth angel that she is, kept her word, I just got back from the Miami concert last night and she absolutely did sing bald girls during bang bang as well as, took the time to give me one more  hug, reassure me that she has my necklace, Tell me she loved me. And made sure Sandra and I we’re all set to get home with the chauffeur her amazing manager Cez arranged when he found out I didn’t have a car to get there. Jessie’s entire team is amazing Alisha, Jessie’s hairstylist waited patiently in the car while Jessie and I hung out. Jessie’s manager Cez made sure everything fell into place with perfection and smiled with joy as I met Jessie. They are all kindhearted legends who’s shoulders Jessie stands on to spread hope, love, empowerment, fun, and realism with the world.  Jessie and her entire team hold a special place in my heart until I see them again and one day I dream of writing a song or working on a creative project with Jessie in person or in spirit however God sees fit. I love you Jessie, Cez and Alisha forever sending you  multitudes of gratitude and carry all you in my heart.

Summer Daze is Coming to an End; Moving Forward to Being on the Mend

Tuesday, August 18th, 2015

I’ve spent a lot of time recently, thinking about the summer, and all that I hoped to do. The summer definitely did not turn out as planned, but there were big blessings and lessons in trusting and faith that I am eternally grateful for, and, looking back, I wouldn’t ask for anything else. I had hoped to go to California, New York,  Maryland, and Disney World. Instead, it was considered a good week if I could make it out of bed and go somewhere local for a couple of hours. I love my gift of foreseeing the future, and while at times it can be frustrating not to be able to foresee my own, I certainly understand why, in the long run, that, too, is a blessing. If I knew that I would get two kidney infections, a stomach infection, have countless days with fever and pain, multiple trips to the E.R., and two hospitalizations this summer, I might have tried to build my own time machine, and get the hell out of this lifetime. However, not knowing that all of that was in store this summer, theres no time machine in my closet, and I have learned multiple lessons about my own strength and about being grateful for even the smallest moments that are pain or fever-free. I’ve also learned to submerge myself in the harmonious waves of music that has always served as my lifejacket in life, to keep me from drowning, when the storms come rolling in one after another. Literally, when I lose my breath from pain, music breathes new life into my body.

I have also found myself repeatedly thankful for social media. We hear of many negative things about social media, bullying and the loss of social interaction as a symptom of a society obsessed with technology. Very seldom do we focus on the positive aspects of social media. Lately, I have been recognizing and grateful for the positives of social media. YouTube videos have become a therapeutic outlet to share my journey and, at the same time, a motivator to connect and work with make-up, when the last thing I’m feeling is beautiful. I learned to use YouTube as my therapy, and find passion with the art of make-up, from one the greatest inspirations and make-up gurus ever born, Talia Joy Castellano.

Tomorrow is her birthday, and while she is no longer here with us in the physical form, all those that love her, have chosen to celebrate the day that she was born, and all the blessings that her life poured upon the world, in large part, through social media.

On days when I miss my long hair, and the multitude of colors that it has been over the years, I watch her videos for inspiration, to make me proud to be part of the “Bald is Beautiful” crowd. YouTube has also allowed me to chronicle the blessings and fun memories sprinkled in moments of calm before the next storm. Also, social media has allowed me to reach out, publicly, as I’ve needed a helping hand to brace the storms that illness can bestow on you financially. The response I’ve received in terms of financial donations, big and small, prayers, and care packages, has truly been overwhelming and kept me going during these last few rounds of the battle to be well. I wanted to extend my sincerest thank you and, while neither the storms nor the battle are far from over, the light at the end of the tunnel has begun to seep through and become visible, allowing me once again, to stay focused on my career goals of creating a larger platform from which to inspire, uplift and share love with all walks of life. Though most of my day tomorrow will be spent in the doctor’s office, keeping the beast at bay, I will be watching YouTube and sharing Talia’s story multiple times, with other patients and medical practitioners, who always seem to approach and say, “Hey there! What’cha watching?” I wish, more than anything, Talia could still be here, in the flesh, to celebrate her birthday Hawaiian style with her family and friends. While this is impossible, I do find comfort in knowing that she will, most certainly, be able to multi-task in spirit and be with her family, friends and drop in on me at the doctor all at the same time.

Ironically, my communication with Talia happened via the computer, and a majority of my interaction with others, is happening through e-mail. I find great joy in doing the e-mail readings because they are logistically easier, allowing me to work on them when I’m feeling well, while simultaneously preventing exposure to others, for fear of catching something because of my lowered immune system. The e-mail readings also force me to use my gift in a different way. I have to contain the energy connection, made when connecting to the composer of the e-mail, and become even more meticulous with my listening skills, to translate the messages from Spirit onto the page. There is a subtlety and precision that comes with this form of reading, that carries with it, a different type of frequency and focus needed. This e-mail-based time period of work will only enhance my gift, and from it, spiritual development has certainly emerged. Among my newly-inspired social media projects, is my account on the Periscope platform. This is a mobile cell phone app, that allows you to video yourself live, and connect with those that follow you on Periscope. This app gives me the opportunity to, once again, begin doing my radio show, Latte of Heaven, that I dearly loved doing, weekly, over the internet. I plan to broadcast, ia Periscope, once a week, Thursday nights at 7 p.m. EST, allowing for followers to ask question s and interact during each broadcast covering an array of spiritual topics, inspiration, and hopefully entertainment along the way. Of course, I will use that platform to also spread awareness about childhood cancer within the parameters of the predominantly spiritual broadcast.

I pray that as each of you look back over your summer, you find the blessings within even the darkest storms, that are there to, ultimately, teach us lessons in gratitude for life’s beautiful summer, sunny daze.

Make-Up Medicine Makes Miracles Happen in the Midst of Medical Madness

Tuesday, June 16th, 2015

As many of you may know, I have been struggling, health wise, for awhile. I have a rare form of leukemia that usually affects someone twice my age. Fortunately, although this condition has been going on for two and a-half years, I was able to treat it for a long period of time with blood transfusions. The blood transfusions stopped working, and I had to start a more aggressive form of treatment, which, again, fortunately, was working. The unfortunate part is that, as a result of the treatment, there’s been damage to my liver, causing my liver to have a condition that is usually something a long-term alcoholic would have. I actually find this ironic, because alcoholism runs in my family, so I rarely drink, except occasionally at a club or on New Year’s eve. Therefore, I’ve been taken off all medications, in hopes that the liver will recover. The scary part of that is that it leaves the initial condition of leukemia without treatment. However, the doctors are convening and trying to figure out an alternative treatment. I took a long time sharing publicly about my health battles because I had tremendous fear of it affecting my career.

As many of you may also know, I was offered the possibility of my own television show, but all of that has come to a screeching halt. I hope that the excitement and opportunity for that will resurge once my health is stabilized again. In the meantime, I have still been working hard on my Youtube channel, and I have been encouraged to build my Youtube audience in the interim, in order to continue to build my public platform. My Youtube channel is mhevenor94. Please subscribe. It’s free and fun! I usually work hard to keep my blogs positive and happy, as that is my personality, so, on the up side of things, on Sunday, the 14th, I found out I won a fully paid ticket to Kandee Johnson’s Glaminar, which is taking place in Beverly Hills on June 27th! Kandee is Queen of the make-up world. She is the lead contributor for Glamour magazine, Vanity Fair, and a whole slew of other glamour, beauty and fashion trend-setting media. She is a world-renowned make-up artist for celebrities although I learned of her through Youtube. She has over 2 million subscribers on her Youtube channel. She’s so much more than a make-up artist. She’s upbeat and inspirational, she’s loving and outgoing, she’s a true artist, and if you can’t tell already, I adore her, much in part because of her artistry, but also because I like to think that we are similar in our efforts to inspire and make the world a better place.

The Glaminar is a pro make-up artists seminar and while I do not intend to become a make-up artist, I love make-up and the art of it. During my health challenges, often make up is the motivation to continue working on my Youtube channel and carry on as a representative for disabled people and those battling cancer all at the same time. Therefore, I want, more than anything, second to getting better, to go to Los Angeles. The problem is that I have outstanding living expenses because I haven’t been well enough to maintain my usual work schedule, so I have to make sure that those are taken care of as well, before paying for a plane ticket and hotel accommodations. This includes accommodations for a travel companion, as due to my health, I’m nervous traveling alone.

My friends have been telling me to start a secondary Go Fund Me account, just for the L. A. trip. I have trouble with doing that because I have already been promoting my Go Fund Me account that helps with living expenses. In that account, it says I have raised over $4,000, which I am very grateful for. The thing is that a majority of that money was spent last year to get a new wheelchair. So, while the total represents the total amount I’ve raised, the actual amount raised recently, for living expenses, is around $800. I know if it’s meant to be, G-d will make it happen, and I certainly need a weekend in L.A. to rejuvenate my spirit and keep me strong for the next round of the fight. I am overwhelmed by the  number of people reaching out to help, emotionally, and/or financially. I know that asking for help is a huge part of the learning process for this latest challenge. I’ve always considered myself very self-sufficient and never, ever felt disabled, although I will say, being sick for this long, particularly very sick for the last two months, I have felt more disabled than ever before. Again, on a happy note, as my physical body is taking a toll, my spiritual body is stronger than ever, and I always thought my gifts were strong, though they have in recent weeks, been off the charts. That being said, please continue to get readings as you need them, because the readings keep me going, in more ways than one, although understand if there is some schedule change or delay, as my health has made things a bit unpredictable. I’m also focusing more on phone readings and e-mail readings, as my immune system has been compromised and I have to be cautious about being in public. While Kandee’s event will be public, I have already told my doctor that I’m going if at all possible, financially, because one, I am putting that out in the universe, and , two, I need it. Make-up is the best medicine, and as they say, sugar makes the medicine go down, so a huge dose of Kandee is just what my spirit guide, and my doctor, ordered. As always, continue to keep me in your prayers, and add me to healing circles, as those gestures are priceless gifts, and I will continue to update you on my Youtube channel with a huge dose of inspiration and declaration for the victory which is sure to be in the future.

If you would like to contribute, even just one dollar, because every dollar helps, go to Gofundme.com/mhevenor. Thank you in advance, for your support in all its forms. Love, light and blessings.

How to Make Real Life a Livable Fairy Tale-Let’s Go to the Movies and Beyond

Tuesday, June 17th, 2014

I love writing! Writing allows for expression and creating, while connecting with the minds and hearts of others all over the world. Many say that this technological whirlwind we live in is separating people, because devices are building a wall, killing face-to-face contact. although I agree, all too often, we find ourselves sitting in front of a device rather than sitting in front of each other. There is a part of me that loves social media and the ability to connect with someone worldwide. Indeed, we can’t stare into each other’s eyes, but we can support each other and relate to the triumphs and struggles that we have on this journey we call life.

The movie industry is a beautiful example of how thè element of entertainment can, at first glance, separate us, when obviously, at a movie, we are not talking to each other, but these different forums of expression allow for a different kind of connection. As an audience member, we can go to see a motion picture with a friend, and both become immersed in the storyline, not needing to communicate at that moment, other than holding each other’s hand for support, passing each other a tissue, or laughing at the same comic moment, as the story unfolds. I have always loved going to the movies, because it creates a world of escape and fantasy, the chance to abandon our own journey for two hours, watching others triumph over obstacles and yet, we can come away with the knowledge or the armor that they used to do so.

I recently saw the movie, Maleficent, The background story of the notorious villain, Maleficent, in Sleeping Beauty. What brought her to the callous moment of placing a curse on a beautiful, innocent princess. Not only do we get the chance to understand that 99per cent of the time, even Negative, or villainous, people in real life, are not born that way. They are a collection of events, energy and the individual wrapped up in the unfolding of an unfortunate story that brings them to the present moment in life, where their villainous,or negative, tendencies are expressed. One of my favorite moments in the movie is when Maleficent acknowledges that she is both the villain and the hero of her story. Of course, Maleficent is completely fantasy, and a fairy tale. But, the message of triumph and self-deflection transcends into our real life story, because, let’s face it, aren’t all of us, at some point, a villain and a hero?

speaking from personal experience, even the most loving, triumphant efforts, when taken out of context, or perceived from outsiders, can be twisted and manipulated to present itself as a villainous act. In The famous words of Madonna, “some of the best intentions pavethe road to hell.” Maleficent also served as a role model that revenge never gets you anywhere, because, as they say, darkness never casts out darkness, but leaves more people blind. If yu have not seen this movie, please take the time to do so. If you find yourself, like me, a lover of fairies, pixies, and enchantment, you will find yourself immersed in the fantastical world that can eerily echo real life. Lets face it, how could a villain be so easily disliked, if their story, or motivation, didn’t somehow stem from someone’s real life misfortune of encountering the person they are created after? Thesame thing holds true for Prince Charming, how could we fall head over heels for the ultimate e hero, if there was not true heroism in real life?

The other motion picture that I was blessed to see recently was The Fault in our Stars. And yes, indeed, there was a hero, a Prince Charming.  unfortunately, the villain was a villain that thrives and takes lives relentlessly and viciously, regardless of sex, age, ethnicity, or religious belief. It can inflict its torture and misfortune on all walks of life, even our beloved fur babies, or pets. This  villain is known as cancer.  Yes, cancer is the ultimate villain. But, this move is not about cancer. It is about the heroes and heroines that fight against this villain with bravery, humility, tenacity and heart. Fault  in our Stars was also a fantasy that stemmed from a real girl’s battle with cancer and, indeed, the villain robbed her of a chance to fall in love or or even ever have a boyfriend, and yet, it was one of her greatest dreams to experience a prince. So, over a series of interviews, she discussed what she thought being in love could have been like. The story details her idea of what falling in love would have been like,  and this dream became a reality, as it graces the screen in the “Fault in our Stars” motion picture. From both movies, with little self-reflection, an audience member can walk away with understanding the importance of continuing to fight with bravery, and above everything else, pursue love, because after all, love can conquer all. Conquering does not mean that it cures the cancer, or that it defeats whatever other villain you’re facing, but love conquers because it allows the spirit to transcend circumstances and it provides strength for the soldiers that follow in its footsteps. If we all take the time to acknowledge our villain-like moments, and truly desire to have more moments of being the “good guy” or “good girl,” then we will be given endless opportunities to make our real lives more of a fairy tale. This does not mean that our life will be free of villains, like cancer, but our life will have meaning, and inspire others to continue fighting their battles,  in the hopes of preventing a war or more casualties. It is important to honor our own story, while keeping in mind, that our story itself is not what’s most important. What’s most important is using our own story as a Springboard to inspire and help others with their journey. The plot may not be the same, but the gems of wisdom learned along the way, can be beneficial across all stories. And, the more we embrace each other’s story, the more it becomes a unified version, which, indeed, brings life into the idea that we are all the villain and the hero, trying to find our happy ending in the story of Life.