Melissa Hevenor
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How to Make Real Life a Livable Fairy Tale-Let’s Go to the Movies and Beyond

Tuesday, June 17th, 2014

I love writing! Writing allows for expression and creating, while connecting with the minds and hearts of others all over the world. Many say that this technological whirlwind we live in is separating people, because devices are building a wall, killing face-to-face contact. although I agree, all too often, we find ourselves sitting in front of a device rather than sitting in front of each other. There is a part of me that loves social media and the ability to connect with someone worldwide. Indeed, we can’t stare into each other’s eyes, but we can support each other and relate to the triumphs and struggles that we have on this journey we call life.

The movie industry is a beautiful example of how thè element of entertainment can, at first glance, separate us, when obviously, at a movie, we are not talking to each other, but these different forums of expression allow for a different kind of connection. As an audience member, we can go to see a motion picture with a friend, and both become immersed in the storyline, not needing to communicate at that moment, other than holding each other’s hand for support, passing each other a tissue, or laughing at the same comic moment, as the story unfolds. I have always loved going to the movies, because it creates a world of escape and fantasy, the chance to abandon our own journey for two hours, watching others triumph over obstacles and yet, we can come away with the knowledge or the armor that they used to do so.

I recently saw the movie, Maleficent, The background story of the notorious villain, Maleficent, in Sleeping Beauty. What brought her to the callous moment of placing a curse on a beautiful, innocent princess. Not only do we get the chance to understand that 99per cent of the time, even Negative, or villainous, people in real life, are not born that way. They are a collection of events, energy and the individual wrapped up in the unfolding of an unfortunate story that brings them to the present moment in life, where their villainous,or negative, tendencies are expressed. One of my favorite moments in the movie is when Maleficent acknowledges that she is both the villain and the hero of her story. Of course, Maleficent is completely fantasy, and a fairy tale. But, the message of triumph and self-deflection transcends into our real life story, because, let’s face it, aren’t all of us, at some point, a villain and a hero?

speaking from personal experience, even the most loving, triumphant efforts, when taken out of context, or perceived from outsiders, can be twisted and manipulated to present itself as a villainous act. In The famous words of Madonna, “some of the best intentions pavethe road to hell.” Maleficent also served as a role model that revenge never gets you anywhere, because, as they say, darkness never casts out darkness, but leaves more people blind. If yu have not seen this movie, please take the time to do so. If you find yourself, like me, a lover of fairies, pixies, and enchantment, you will find yourself immersed in the fantastical world that can eerily echo real life. Lets face it, how could a villain be so easily disliked, if their story, or motivation, didn’t somehow stem from someone’s real life misfortune of encountering the person they are created after? Thesame thing holds true for Prince Charming, how could we fall head over heels for the ultimate e hero, if there was not true heroism in real life?

The other motion picture that I was blessed to see recently was The Fault in our Stars. And yes, indeed, there was a hero, a Prince Charming.  unfortunately, the villain was a villain that thrives and takes lives relentlessly and viciously, regardless of sex, age, ethnicity, or religious belief. It can inflict its torture and misfortune on all walks of life, even our beloved fur babies, or pets. This  villain is known as cancer.  Yes, cancer is the ultimate villain. But, this move is not about cancer. It is about the heroes and heroines that fight against this villain with bravery, humility, tenacity and heart. Fault  in our Stars was also a fantasy that stemmed from a real girl’s battle with cancer and, indeed, the villain robbed her of a chance to fall in love or or even ever have a boyfriend, and yet, it was one of her greatest dreams to experience a prince. So, over a series of interviews, she discussed what she thought being in love could have been like. The story details her idea of what falling in love would have been like,  and this dream became a reality, as it graces the screen in the “Fault in our Stars” motion picture. From both movies, with little self-reflection, an audience member can walk away with understanding the importance of continuing to fight with bravery, and above everything else, pursue love, because after all, love can conquer all. Conquering does not mean that it cures the cancer, or that it defeats whatever other villain you’re facing, but love conquers because it allows the spirit to transcend circumstances and it provides strength for the soldiers that follow in its footsteps. If we all take the time to acknowledge our villain-like moments, and truly desire to have more moments of being the “good guy” or “good girl,” then we will be given endless opportunities to make our real lives more of a fairy tale. This does not mean that our life will be free of villains, like cancer, but our life will have meaning, and inspire others to continue fighting their battles,  in the hopes of preventing a war or more casualties. It is important to honor our own story, while keeping in mind, that our story itself is not what’s most important. What’s most important is using our own story as a Springboard to inspire and help others with their journey. The plot may not be the same, but the gems of wisdom learned along the way, can be beneficial across all stories. And, the more we embrace each other’s story, the more it becomes a unified version, which, indeed, brings life into the idea that we are all the villain and the hero, trying to find our happy ending in the story of Life.