Melissa Hevenor
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Summer Daze is Coming to an End; Moving Forward to Being on the Mend

Tuesday, August 18th, 2015

I’ve spent a lot of time recently, thinking about the summer, and all that I hoped to do. The summer definitely did not turn out as planned, but there were big blessings and lessons in trusting and faith that I am eternally grateful for, and, looking back, I wouldn’t ask for anything else. I had hoped to go to California, New York,  Maryland, and Disney World. Instead, it was considered a good week if I could make it out of bed and go somewhere local for a couple of hours. I love my gift of foreseeing the future, and while at times it can be frustrating not to be able to foresee my own, I certainly understand why, in the long run, that, too, is a blessing. If I knew that I would get two kidney infections, a stomach infection, have countless days with fever and pain, multiple trips to the E.R., and two hospitalizations this summer, I might have tried to build my own time machine, and get the hell out of this lifetime. However, not knowing that all of that was in store this summer, theres no time machine in my closet, and I have learned multiple lessons about my own strength and about being grateful for even the smallest moments that are pain or fever-free. I’ve also learned to submerge myself in the harmonious waves of music that has always served as my lifejacket in life, to keep me from drowning, when the storms come rolling in one after another. Literally, when I lose my breath from pain, music breathes new life into my body.

I have also found myself repeatedly thankful for social media. We hear of many negative things about social media, bullying and the loss of social interaction as a symptom of a society obsessed with technology. Very seldom do we focus on the positive aspects of social media. Lately, I have been recognizing and grateful for the positives of social media. YouTube videos have become a therapeutic outlet to share my journey and, at the same time, a motivator to connect and work with make-up, when the last thing I’m feeling is beautiful. I learned to use YouTube as my therapy, and find passion with the art of make-up, from one the greatest inspirations and make-up gurus ever born, Talia Joy Castellano.

Tomorrow is her birthday, and while she is no longer here with us in the physical form, all those that love her, have chosen to celebrate the day that she was born, and all the blessings that her life poured upon the world, in large part, through social media.

On days when I miss my long hair, and the multitude of colors that it has been over the years, I watch her videos for inspiration, to make me proud to be part of the “Bald is Beautiful” crowd. YouTube has also allowed me to chronicle the blessings and fun memories sprinkled in moments of calm before the next storm. Also, social media has allowed me to reach out, publicly, as I’ve needed a helping hand to brace the storms that illness can bestow on you financially. The response I’ve received in terms of financial donations, big and small, prayers, and care packages, has truly been overwhelming and kept me going during these last few rounds of the battle to be well. I wanted to extend my sincerest thank you and, while neither the storms nor the battle are far from over, the light at the end of the tunnel has begun to seep through and become visible, allowing me once again, to stay focused on my career goals of creating a larger platform from which to inspire, uplift and share love with all walks of life. Though most of my day tomorrow will be spent in the doctor’s office, keeping the beast at bay, I will be watching YouTube and sharing Talia’s story multiple times, with other patients and medical practitioners, who always seem to approach and say, “Hey there! What’cha watching?” I wish, more than anything, Talia could still be here, in the flesh, to celebrate her birthday Hawaiian style with her family and friends. While this is impossible, I do find comfort in knowing that she will, most certainly, be able to multi-task in spirit and be with her family, friends and drop in on me at the doctor all at the same time.

Ironically, my communication with Talia happened via the computer, and a majority of my interaction with others, is happening through e-mail. I find great joy in doing the e-mail readings because they are logistically easier, allowing me to work on them when I’m feeling well, while simultaneously preventing exposure to others, for fear of catching something because of my lowered immune system. The e-mail readings also force me to use my gift in a different way. I have to contain the energy connection, made when connecting to the composer of the e-mail, and become even more meticulous with my listening skills, to translate the messages from Spirit onto the page. There is a subtlety and precision that comes with this form of reading, that carries with it, a different type of frequency and focus needed. This e-mail-based time period of work will only enhance my gift, and from it, spiritual development has certainly emerged. Among my newly-inspired social media projects, is my account on the Periscope platform. This is a mobile cell phone app, that allows you to video yourself live, and connect with those that follow you on Periscope. This app gives me the opportunity to, once again, begin doing my radio show, Latte of Heaven, that I dearly loved doing, weekly, over the internet. I plan to broadcast, ia Periscope, once a week, Thursday nights at 7 p.m. EST, allowing for followers to ask question s and interact during each broadcast covering an array of spiritual topics, inspiration, and hopefully entertainment along the way. Of course, I will use that platform to also spread awareness about childhood cancer within the parameters of the predominantly spiritual broadcast.

I pray that as each of you look back over your summer, you find the blessings within even the darkest storms, that are there to, ultimately, teach us lessons in gratitude for life’s beautiful summer, sunny daze.

Entering the Last Year of my 30’s Invited a Birthday to Remember

Monday, May 25th, 2015

So often, we hear people complain about getting older, wrinkles or investing in anti-aging products. When, in actuality, aging is a blessing that signifies all of our triumphs, memories and the magical, crazy, beautiful, difficult roller coaster we call life. I remember entering my 29th birthday. I was nervous about preparing to say goodbye to my 20’s and embracing the 30-year mark of my life. Since that time, i’ve gone through so much that makes me not scared, but thrilled to enter the last year of the third decade of my life.  When your health is in question, it truly brings to the forefront how precious life is, and how magical the single universal gift we are each given, multiple times a day, known as breath truly is. So many children never get to experience the teen years, or turning legal at 21, much less the idea of nearing 40. I was lucky enough to have my birthday fall on a Friday, embarking on a 3-day weekend, giving even more time and liberty to celebrate a victorious year.

It started off with getting a tattoo portrait of Talia Joy Castellano. I always get my tattoos done at High Voltage in California, so I was very nervous about the idea of getting a portrait done at home, in Florida, but, after much research, I found an amazing artist named Lily, here in Ft. Lauderdale. Before entering the tattoo shop, I asked Talia for a sign if this was the right thing to do, and the first thing I noticed was there were several portraits that had the blue and pink colors of Talia’s Legacy foundation in them. Then, as I began to discuss ideas for the tattoo, one of Talia’s favorite songs by Nikki Minaj, came on, that I also took as a sign from Talia that I was in the right place. Lily, the artist, went through hundreds of pictures with me, and then visualized and chose the perfect space for the portrait, in between two of my other monumental tattoos. The first one, is the logo for my business, which now gracefully sits right above Talia, and  the second one on my wrist that symbolizes the afterlife and is a replica of the butterfly logo for Lisa  William’s business, to honor that Lisa is my mentor, and the one who helped me embrace living my purpose as a spiritual teacher, medium, and intuitive. I always wanted something between those two significant tattoos for a longtime but never knew what to get, and now the butterfly sits elegantly on what looks like Talia’s neck, which I think is pretty awesome, because on her bucket list, Talia wanted a tattoo now, symbolically, she has one that  is purple, the color for neuroblastoma. The day after the tattoo was done, I keep forgetting that it was there and when I would notice it, I could not stop looking at my arm.  Therefore, I would look down, see it, and say, “Hi, Talia,” each time. Now, I’m sure to be known in my apartment building, as the spiritual girl in the wheelchair who talks to her arm. But, that’s ok, because I’m over the moon happy and that’s what counts.

On my birthday, my bestie, Jenn, took me to the Mac store and I got to pick out two beautiful lipsticks and a eyeshadow palette with a gift certificate as a present.  I also got my cartilage pierced on the left side, to honor Talia and  Mattia Joyce Talia’s big sister. Mattia is such an inspiration as a beautiful young woman inside and out and she is so supportive of Talia’s Legacy and such a sweet friend. I was so excited to have my cartilage done reminding me of their strength and talent with makeup. I had always wanted my cartilage pierced because I thought it looked cool and now,  without hair, it is very noticeable, which I love. During this process came to the realization that getting the tattoo at this point in my fight for a cure was very empowering because it allowed me to have something done to my body that is under my control, when so much that happens with my health and to my body from being sick and in a wheelchair, that is out of  my control. The same holds true with the piercing.

I have to share with you a miraculous incident that happened during the piercing. Even though the gentleman did it with the utmost professionalism, my ear bled quite a bit. I had my spiritual prayer beads that were given to me by my spiritual teacher and guru around my neck. He asked me to remove the beads, so he could get the blood off, however, the blood had gotten on the white thread that the beads are strung onto. The beads are clear so the blood on the thread was very visible. He told me to take it home and put it in some bleach. I said I will although, that was the last thing I wanted to do, because the beads were specially blessed and prepared for me by my teacher, so I wanted to keep them in the condition that they were given to me. Before leaving the shop, I closed my eyes, took a breath, and began  praying to Jesus, Moses, Buddha, G-d, the angels, and all my loved ones in heaven including Talia, to all help restore my beads to their original condition, without the blood. When I took my necklace off at home, to see if I could clean it, there was no sign of blood. This was not only confirmation that prayers are answered, but also  reaffirmed my faith. if a blood-stained thread, can be made clean  by Divine power and love, that same Divine power can touch my body and heal it from any and all illness. Of course, to be healed has to be part of my destiny, tho the possibility for healing is there, and so as I prepare to  enter yet another treatment cycle, I hold firm that the treatment will do what it’s supposed to, giving me back the health  I once had,  and who knows? Maybe one day down the road, I will not be dependent on a wheelchair. No matter what, I will be happy and full of faith, for all that is and all that is yet to come. Tonight, I had another celebration with my two best friends, complete with a beautiful homemade cake decorated in editable make-up , so until I am well, as Talia would say, “Make-up is my wig.” no matter what the outcome, I am truly blessed to have amazing friends, lot of love, a heart full of faith, and I am thrilled to be one year closer to 40!

The Sweet Spirit of Harvest-Happy Haunted Halloween and So Much More

Tuesday, November 4th, 2014

Halloween, 2014, was awesome! I don’t celebrate Halloween and I clarify that because so many people were asking me how to celebrate Halloween or what it means. Forgive me if I’m wrong, but I believe those who celebrate Halloween are practicing witches, no pun intended. It is the day to honor the dead, and different rituals are practiced under the moon, in an effort to honor those in Spirit. While I tease about being a “witchy-woo,” a phrase I borrowed from my teacher, Lisa Williams, I am, by no means, a witch. I consider myself a Kabbalist, because Kabbalah allows you to embrace both a Christian foundation and honor Jewish traditions. Kabbalah is the study of the mystic side of Judaism. Mystic meaning there are mysterious ways that G-d and energy works, and in that discreet maneuver, there is a code, or underlying system, that we strive to understand, bringing us closer to G-d, or the light. Often, people view someone who has intuitive ability or speaks to the departed, as a witch. I think that that is, in part, because it is  misunderstood how those like myself, do the things that we do. And, while it is a gift that i cherish and am blessed to have, it is something that all of us can acquire. In fact, think of it as the ability to play an instrument. The majority of us have what it takes to play an instrument, though some have a natural innate talent for doing so that others of us have to work harder to acquire. Because this sort of gift runs in my family, I guess genetically, I am predisposed to having the abilities and, because I began experiencing and understanding that they existed, I have had longer to perfect my ability and feel comfortable with it. All of us have the potential to expand and develop spiritual gifts. It is a matter of personal dedication and practice while understanding the sacred significance of using such gifts to enlighten and help, rather than for personal gain, or using such abilities for selfish reasons.

I love to dress up on Halloween, because I have always had a fascination with performing and love the ability to play someone else for the night on Halloween. I saw the movie, “Maleficent,” in May and fell in love. It is the background story of the villain from Sleeping Beauty. I love the movie because it dives into the psychology of what turns a person, who, in this case, happens to be a fairy, into someone evil and resentful, and what it takes, to bring that person out of that space of darkness and back to a place of love and light. Although a person can never be the same as before the events of life took place, one can find the love and light they experience by putting those events in the past behind them, and realizing that it is those same events that make us a stronger, more experienced individual in the present. While Maleficent’s journey is one of a fairy, her story is one that resonates with all of us who have been betrayed by someone we love, and must find a way to trust ourselves, as well as other people, again.  The message of love and resilience was so powerful. Immediately after the movie, I knew I wanted to embody Maleficent for Halloween, and so I did. I had so much fun doing that, I even took on another character, named Kelly from Cali. If you’d like to see it, please watch my YouTube video on my YouTube channel, mhevenor94

The video is called Halloween Part II, Maleficent - A Mac Haul and Meet Kelly from Cali. I also will continue to choose monthly, three subscribers from my channel, to win a free reading, so please subscribe. It is free to start an account, easy and you get notification when I upload a new video, I also make videos based on requests about what people want to learn about, and cover various spiritual topics as well as make-up reviews and tips, so check it out.

No matter how old you get, you never get too old for a sleep over. And, one of my best friends, Jennifer, spent the night on Halloween and we had a great time! Halloween where I live, is like few places in the United States. They block off at least five blocks, and have numerous costume contests. One of my favorite aspects about Halloween in the particular area near Fort Lauderdale is that you will see all types of couples: men with men, women with women, and of course, heterosexual couples. Everyone is so respectful of each other, so kind and no one gets out of control. It becomes like a little island of utopia dressed up in extravagant costumes that have been planned the whole year prior to Halloween. If, for no other reason, go watch my video to see these lavish costumes. I have also had some more amazing experiences with my readings .G-d is incredible and I feel so blessed to be a messenger, able to connect people to their loved ones in Spirit, explaining that it is not a process of disrupting the deceased, who are in heaven. When someone passes, they are no longer contained by their physical body, and therefore, their spirit has no physical limitations. So, from my understanding, 90% of a person who has passed’s spirit will be in heaven, while 10% ascends closer to the earth plane in order to connect with me so that I can give their message to the loved ones. In fact, reincarnation works in much the same way. It is only about 10% of the person’s spirit that reincarnates to a new life. The rest of the spirit remains in heaven. Therefore, if we or someone we know passes away, their loved one can greet them in heaven and also be in the middle of a journey of a new life at the same time. So, in most cases, when we pass, we do reconnect with our loved ones who passed before us, unless they are going through some spiritual learning and healing process, but that is a much bigger topic I’ll have to cover in another blog.

This is an exciting month because I will be going on the Talia’s Legacy cruise, to benefit childhood cancer through her foundation, and I will also be attending a week-long workshop to coordinate for international travel and inspirational show tour dates. More to come on that very soon, but super-excited! I hope everyone had a safe and happy Halloween. Enjoy these last two months of 2014, because it is a year that we can never live again, and we are coming upon the holiday season, which can often be difficult for those who don’t have family, but ‘family” does not have to be defined by blood or genealogy. “Family” is defined as those that support us on our journey, help us grow, teach us tolerance, and love us in our darkest hour, shining glimmer of light until we find the bacon of light at the end of the tunnel. If you feel or find that you don’t have someone who serves in that way for you, remember that myself, the Psychic in your Pocket, does my videos and blogs for no other reason but to share my heart, to give you a little bit of light and happiness on your journey, through whatever storms may come.

We’ve Come So Close but Yet so Far with Embracing Equality

Thursday, July 24th, 2014

As many of you know from following me on social media, I love what I do. I love Spirit and 99% of the time, I love my life. I have always been blessed to serve as an advocate for my fellow members who are differently-abled, or historically labelled “handicapped.” I think it is amazing how far we’ve come, when someone like myself, can be widely embraced and supported through social media or someone like Amy Purdy, an amputee, who is conquering the world one activity at a time, and making a statement in Hollywood, and still, there is so much further to go. I love the blessings and opportunities that the universe is allowing for me as I have a growing clientele who work in Hollywood and the entertainment industry, and, as to be expected, as that clientele has grown, doors have opened, inviting me to be showcased on various media platforms such as talk shows and/or television appearances. Unfortunately, the sad reality is realizing, after interviews and being watched by interested parties, the studios where the appearances would take place, are not wheelchair-accessible. This unspoken barrier in Hollywood floors my mind, when there have been television shows such as Push Girls, that center around women in wheelchairs, and other tv shows with main characters who are in wheelchairs. Although, it does explain why able-bodied actors are used to portray characters in wheelchairs.

I am certainly familiar with the stigmas that can surface in areas of art or artistry. For example, in my first two years of college, I was the first individual in a wheelchair to take choreography, Dance Notation, History of Hip-Hop, Intro and Advanced Modern Dance, and a whole group of other art-related classes that involved dance or movement. Obviously, I was not able to participate in the same way that able-bodied students were able to dance. But, I did learn how to choreograph and put dance numbers together, verbally describing the choreography to able-bodied dancers. I will never forget the first day of class. The dance professor was so closed-minded and completely irate that I refused to leave the class. She insisted that it was a waste of time, and that I would be an observer who was in the way. Fortunately, the angels and my guide helped me to win her over quickly when she realized I had a photographic memory and could verbally describe each dance step precisely. Not only did I learn a greater appreciation for the art of dance, but also on the last day of class, each classmate thanked me for teaching them how to be better dancers, through the art of listening. And the professor even choreographed a piece in my honor, called “Dancing from the Heart.” Sometimes, against all odds, you know you are placed among people for something much greater than the circumstances convey, and although I find great joy in dong my readings and being of service to Spirit, and people from all over, I know that much of the greater picture is to serve as an advocate for differently-abled people, not only by sharing my story and the obstacles I’ve overcome from a wheelchair, and in life, but also to demonstrate that someone who is physicallyh different, still can be a valuable contributor, sexy, have an active social life and bring a perspective that the average person may not.

I recently went to a popular restaurant/bar in Fort Lauderdale, where I was treated like a second-class citizen. The interior of the restaurant had no tables accommodating a wheelchair and the exterior tables that did accommodate for a wheelchair, were typically not available. After an hour wait for a wheelchair accessible table outside (in 90 degree weather), more than one waitress came over and recommended that I eat off of a metal bar stool removed from the outdoor bar. Sadly enough, not fully comprehending what the waitress was asking of me, I agreed. Until she brought a tiny, metal bar stool that I couldn’t get my wheelchair underneath, and left my friend who was accompanying me, to eat with the food on her lap. When i told her I was not comfortable eating off of a metal stool,she insisted that this is how other disabled customers were most often accommodated. When I asked her how many able-bodied customers she had made this suggestion to, she began to giggle, and miraculously, a table outside opened up, where there was not only table available, but all of a sudden, four tables were available. To top it off, when my friend ordered a $10 mimosa, it was 1/4 full, when other mimosas came in all directions to other tables, filled to the top. We found out later that for $5 more, you could have a whole bottle of champagne and orange juice, and miraculously, we were not told of this Sunday brunch option. I am always optimistic and look for the best in every situation, though this particular experience was over and beyond outrageous, and I am a firm believer that when you remain silent when an injustice occurs, you might as well be committing the injustice yourself. I still view these experiences as blessings, as they open the door to raise awareness and the vibrational consciousness of humanity. So, I will continue on my journey to make a difference with the main intention of helping society embrace the true colors of all individuals, no matter the shape, color, formation or limitations of the light that each person shines.

A Wild Wednesday and a Beautiful Lunch with Friends

Friday, May 2nd, 2014

This past Wednesday was definitely filled with memories. Still feeling the whirlwind of April’s wild energy with all the amazing events taking place in the cosmosphere, I believe this week we were feeling the tail end of that crazy energy, though as is always the case, among the chaos, there are order and blessings to be found. So, Wednesday morning, all at once, my schedule got changed around, and I had a very important phone conference, meaning that needed my full attention. As luck would have it, a friend of mine, Tracy Dyer, was in town after attending the Fort Lauderdale “I can Do It” Conference with Hay House. Tracy is the owner and designer for her eco-friendly designer purses, handbags and tote bags. Her company’s name is Urbanjunket. All of the products are made from recycled materials, mostly recycled water bottles, and they are beautiful, practical and planet-friendly to boot. I met Tracy several years ago, walking around the different vendor booths at a Hay House convention in San Diego. She was so kind and easy to talk to, I immediately felt  like we had known each other for years. I also had the pleasure of personally meeting Dr. Wayne Dyer another year, when he came over to see Tracy at her booth, and I was there talking to her. They are such an amazing family, so warm and open, and spiritually connected, that you feel it in every interaction.

Unfortunately,  I was not able to attend this year’s “I can Do It” convention in Fort Lauderdale, but a friend of mine, Sandra Barbieri, was able to attend, so I asked her to give Tracy a small gift with a message. I asked Tracy if she would meet me for lunch the next week, since I couldn’t attend the conference and wanted to see her. I was delighted when she said yes! Which bring me to this crazy past week, Wednesday. We went to my favorite organic restaurant in Boca called the Farmer’s Table. It is part of the Wyndham Hotel in Boca. It has a fun ambience and a nice selection of food choices. My friend, Sandra, Picked me up in her Lincoln Town car. That, in itself, started the adventure, because it always feels as if I stepped back in time, or like an English princess, when riding in that car. It is so spacious and has an air of royalty about it. It was so wonderful to see Tracy again. As always, she has amazing energy and it feels as though time has stood still since the last time I saw her. Once we ordered our food, we had amazing conversation that covered everything from world travels to cultural differences and just trying to stay positive in a sometimes busy, crazy world. After lunch, I was so honored when Tracy asked me if  she could have a reading, and I said,”Sure,” Tracy definitely seemed a bit shocked when my friend Sandra said, “she can do it right now!” Tracy then said, ” Are You sure right now?” and I felt so blessed because I have never completely disconnected from Spirit and I can connect so easily with my guide because we are in constant communication and contact, that doing a reading instantly is not a problem. Sandra stepped away from the table to give Tracy and I privacy and the reading began, I have to reiterate Tracy is so open and accepting, creative and understanding, that it made my job that much easier. For about a half-hour I gave her spiritual guidance and soon we began talking as friends again, about spiritual and everyday life experiences. Time flies when you are with like-minded people and the lunch was over in the blink of an eye, but I am thrilled to learn that Tracy will be returning to south Florida, in the the not so far future, and I know I’ll get to see her again. This experience is a perfect example of why it’s so important, that, no fatter how busy we get, we make time for those in-person interactions, to help inspire each other, giving encouragement, mutually, to continue following our calling, no matter what that calling is.

If you are like me, and your purses or tote bags take a beating after a hard winter, please check out www.urbanjunket.com, for beautiful bags that are kind to the planet, to help you stay organized, creating order, if you have a wild Wednesday or any other day of the week.